Being a parent requires constant change. Change from our children and change within ourselves. As a busy single mom, I expect certain things to happen that are out of my control. Children forget to tell you something that they need for school, money they need to pay for one thing or another and they forget to do homework assignments, their chores or even to clean their rooms. These day to day kid things are the unexpected expected. As a working single full time parent the job impacts can be equally as unexpected and yet these too are uncontrollable and must be handled.
My boss' mother passed away last weekend. He is from another country that requires him to of course have to leave right away. There have been several times in about the last 4 years where he has had to leave right away due to a family unexpected illness or death. The impacts on his family are as expected the feelings of grief and loss accompanied by the need to plan a funeral in another country and all impacted on the financial purse strings of the family. Unexpected.
When this happens I then step in and "act" for him. What this does for me is to add more unexpected to my already unexpected. I am required to make the unexpected appear to flow into the expected. I do it. It requires more juggling of my 3 responsibilities, accompanied by loss of time and freedom to go to work and do just one job - mine. What I can say is that this time, I realized that the ease with which I breezed through the biggest of all assignments was a good feeling. It just reinfoasrced the fact that with growth comes change and with that change comes growth. The manner in which we handle the unexpected serves as a map which will allow us to look back and see from whence we came. Retiring at 55 I am gonna be awesome.