I was watching TD Jakes on Oprah's LifeClass - The Tour this past Monday night. I recorded it because I knew I was gonna hear some stuff that I needed to hear over and over again. TD Jakes inspires me to think on the goodness of God. When I hear the man speak, his voice electrifies. He is smart and he is grounded. So, he says that what drives you is your life's passion. The thing that you would do if no one paid you is your passion. Once you find your passion, you will find your purpose. And once you find your purpose you will never have to chase after your provision again. Can I get a what, what?? To me this was powerful. He explained that your provision is money or whatever it is that sustains you from day to day. Once you are actively living in your passion, you won't have to worry about chasing the money, the money will chase you. Now, this doesn't mean you will become a millionaire, it means that your needs will be taken care of and if you happen to become a millionaire that is gravy. He said that life is like a gymnasium. When you go and work out you can go from one activity to another - lifting weights, running on the treadmill, swimming, etc. and each one of those activities teaches you that you can do them. You gain a modicum of self respect and you know that once you can do it, no one can tell you otherwise. You experience a sense of confidence that sustains, your self-esteem becomes more esteemed (i know i know, real bad but i think it is kinda's funny) and can't nobody (ok yep bad grammar but you understand right?) tell you otherwise.
Now listen to what he says about the gymnasium. You ready? He stated "Self respect stops you from being at the mercy of other people to validate you." Oh My God - now that is powerful!! No one can take it away from you. No matter what someone may say about you, no matter who talks about you, who lies on you, who leaves you, who disrespects you - you will know that it does not diminish the fabulous person that you are because your respect of self has increased. As you go through life you have got to try things that are a little uncomfortable or you will never grow. Often times the uncomfortable feelings will propel you into your destination. The pain will lead you into your purpose. Which leads you into your destiny.
He then talked about feelings. He said that the often times we may not feel like doing a thing; we should do it until the feelings come. He said there have many times he has not felt like being a parent. He says that when his children were little there were so many times when he was flat out tired or they had done something that made him angry and yet that did not stop him from doing the things that they needed him to do. He parented until the feelings of parenting came and this often times doesn'r really take as long as we think. He added that in relationships the same thing stands. We don't feel like being a certain way because we don't feel like being loving. The partner asks us for something and because we don't feel like doing it we don't. My thought is that if we would spend more time responding positively to our significant then the feelings that we don't have right now would come. If in fact we are sincere about the relationship. He said that love will leap over excuses to get things done. Fake it until you make it. Do it until the feelings come. Love on purpose. Decide and follow through. Be an example of the possibility and not an example of a dream not fulfilled.
If you can't tell already, I am a fan of TD Jakes. I don't know anything about his personal life, his relationship with his children or his wife. What I know is what I hear in terms of his sermons. I am sure he has skeletons in his closet, I do too. However, what I know more is that when he speaks his words are like an arrow propelled into the direction of the target. That target is my soul. He touches it each and every time. He reminds me that all things really are possible if you but believe and trust in the Lord to continue to send his Holy Spirit to walk with you. He does and I will.