I love words.
Words can create a painting in your imagination, and evoke emotion too deep to describe. The description of time, place, people can provide a marvelous means of escape. Words be a stress buster. Certain phrases can cause you to laugh till you cry. They can take you to a place of suspense, wonder and fear. Spoken words can build you up, or tear you down. A few well-placed words in the face of someone you’re angry with can create destruction that lasts for years. Like it or not – words are creative.
You can’t take them back. They are out there. "Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words can never hurt me." What a lie! Bones heal. Hearts and souls just add bandage after bandage...trying to hide the wounds. Even if the one who leveled you , tries to say "I’m sorry," or "I didn’t mean it." In the times of fear, or uncertainty those words will come screaming back out of the crevices etched in your soul.
Is this a serious article? Somewhat…but not completely. As writers we are taught to trim our writing of unncessary words.
Our trimmings can include adverbs and some adjectives. As a child I was taught that an adjective tells: which, what kind of and how many.
So I was reading some comments on a Youtube video, and was astounded at how many times the F word – in its adjective form was used. Not only was it irritating – it made no sense. "I hate that f-ing b. (Speaking of Sandra Lee - a cook on the food network.)
First I wondered what she had done to him to make him hate her so. Did he really know her? And several comments later someone else talked about the f-ing kitchen. (Which what kind of and how many). After reading his description of the kitchen – f-ing – I couldn’t even picture it.
Should the F word really be used as an adjective? "Man I got this f-ing truck, I paid $28k. We don’t know if it was a good deal or bad. I wonder what color it was, the year, and perhaps the size. Shall we sympathize with this guy, or celebrate? I just don’t know.
And when we think of what the term "F" really means. Why are we using it in the first place? I can’t imagine someone saying, "Go sexual intercourse yourself." Is this a word that we use because we can’t think of anything else? This truly shows a lack of creativity. Lately the common phrase is "WTF". So we are saying "What The Sexual Intercourse?" Then of course the adjective form comes into play "Get out of my Sexual Intercourse way."…or sexual intercoursing way. I was told as a young woman that the word actually means "forced unwilling carnal knowledge." That’s even more difficult to use. "Hey – forced unwilling carnal knowledge - you!"
I guess if I’m going to become really cool, I have to learn the broad- spectrum use of the F word. Even my Christian friends, and yes, well educated, from bachelors to doctorate, use the F word. (Sorry, Chris.)
Is it because we are so disatisfied that we have to find a word that is the epitome of disgust and anger?
What’s the point? Why are we so angry? Or is this some rite of passage into acceptance by the masses that I have missed? Do I have to agree with everything Jack Kerouac said in order to be a "free thinker?" Could Tennessee Williams have used less four letter words and been successful?"
The other favorite word of course is the S- word. "Man, we were dancing and S-." And then this f-ing chick tells me she’s hungry. Like I need to buy her some f-ing food. (I've cooked for many years, owned my own restaurant, and catering business, and I don't know what kind of food that is.)
Another comment on a cooking show: "What kind of S- is she fixing. I would never eat that S-." Well, I hope not! I prefer food over S- anytime
"Pick up your S- and get the F- out." If we were to use the actual words to convey what we are saying, it’s going to sound pretty stupid.
I guess I started thinking about this because I saw a crawl on the news channel that said California is going to ban cussing. Some people really believe that’s what the framers of our constitution meant when they said "freedom of speech."
By the way, did you know that people seldom mis-spell the F word? But they frequently mis-spell "you’re". Does that mean we're good with four letters, but five letters are just too much?
O.K. I’m done. I’m just tired of sitting in a restaurant, and listening to people rant and rave using mostly four letter words. And if the person is on a cell phone, it's an unwritten law that he has to speak even louder. How pathetic. And it doesn’t matter if children are present.
They pull tears from my heart and squeeze them out my eyes.
They give me just what I need to make a perfect cupcake.
Just a few can transport me to new places in my soul.
They build up or tear down. Create atmosphere - good or bad.
They strengthen relationships or destroy them.
They communicate new ideas.
And evoke all kinds of human responses.
It doesn’t matter what language or how good or poor the grammar.
They are blocks that are comprised of tiny elements: letters.
We seldom run out of them.
Speechless is just a word.
It’s a girl
It’s a bomb
I want you
I hate you
Move the center beam 3 inches to the left.
Boots on the ground. Mangled metal - no survivors.
Landed safely. Everyone survived
Hold for a count of 4.
Don’t be afraid.
I’m so sorry.
Add 3 Tablespoons of flour and brown in butter lightly.
And the winner is…
I’m so happy to see you.
I’ll call you!
Don’t call me!
I’m so excited.
Tell me more
There are so many beautiful words – appropriate words – descriptive words that are available to us. Why choose only two? Maybe we should trim our words. We don’t need the f-ing adjective, and there are better nouns to use.
Let’s quit saying things with our mouths we wouldn’t hold in our hands…or do in public.