Through out history there were distinct lines of respect, honor, trust, security. It’s not like human experiences, diversities, life styles, relationships have change since almost the beginning of time. That has shape our world into to the blatant unrelenting, despicable scene of bad manners.
Every person knows the difference between good and bad, so too is the given understanding of each individuals theory of manners.
As a child we called everyone Mr., Miss, or Mrs., as given the nature of respect given to them when a young person would address them. Adults would quickly chastise a child for calling an adult by their first name. For example when a child was in school, it was never heard of a student addressing their teacher as David, Ellen, Teresa. That would be grounds for a detention or lines to which would show the student respect that bad manners would not be tolerated.
Even a child, teenager, adult addressing their parents. If a son or daughter address there mother or father by there first name, that child would be corrected and show the errors of their way.
So too given the opening of a door to a total stranger, or assisting a person with bags of groceries, or holding the elevator door open to allow someone in, what about giving a seat to a elderly or disabled person when on public transportation. How about something as little as when your walking down the sidewalk with friends, moving over to allow a person to pass.
As I think more and more as the proper manners which is in all definitions the term to use is respect. Yes where has the respect gone in this generation. I found even in my short life of 46 years, the respect and manners that was taught to me are invisible or plain not there.
I have seen a constant decline on manners and respect over 21 years. I look at the world and wonder where did it go. Well a lot can be blamed of the parents. Some sectors of the human rights infiltrated our homes that is where the manners went. One saying I always despises was “Hands Are For Clapping Not Slapping”. Ok so let the children do what they want and there is no consequences, oh yes you can sit in a time out chair.
Now a days, in school a student calls their teacher by there first name. Allowed to wear hats in school. Oh yes they can not were a tee-shirts with a derogatory saying or picture on it, in case in offends someone. We have given children the right to verbalize their thoughts and sometimes they are not very polite. Even amongst family’s the respect and manners have all gone out the window.
I have witnessed children treating their parents like the child. Don’t get me wrong I have never accepted child abuse nor battery. When you look at society today the respect and manners are gone. In raising a child my saying to him is, he may be the only male in the family but he is far from the man of the house.
I am flabbergasted with the role change of the family dynamics, where role reversals is evident. It’s almost like the parents revert to being the child and they permit it. I have nephews and nieces, I know that I have not been in their lives, I have never been the respect of being called Aunt. Or children come into my home and tell me what to do.
There is a lot to say about manners, when speaking on this topic the one apparent lesson is that if a person has no manners. In essence they have no respect. Who is to blame? Who is the one that is to train these children? I personally think the whole society is to blame. Why? It starts from the home, to school to employment.
If the fundamental training is not started in the home, then the school system does not set the presidents of respect. Where did the manners go? Can we get them back? Has government, religion, Christian Family eliminated how to train children the fundamental rights of manners. You tell me.
Causes Wende Plante aka Billy-Joe Supports
Distress Centre Of Ontario, Aids Committee of Durham Region, United Survivors, Y.W.C.A.