I cannot completely explain it, but entries about people and their attempts to "deal with" their daily problems never cease to catch my interest. The ones which especially amuse me are of those who give up and choose to sort their thoughts through all sorts of negativity they can muster through written words.
On one hand, it reassures me that I am not-- contrary to how it feels-- alone in the challenges of life... and that other people are actually facing harsher troubles. On the other, it surprises me how people can grasp the words to write down their frustrations and actually choose to "post it" for the general audience to comment or sympathize with. That takes a lot... a lot of guts, and competence in how to write effectively.
Until recently, I had not realized why a comment from my friend disturbed me regarding this guilty pleasure. It was a very simple comment, as I showed my friend a lengthy and especially amusing rant I had read. Instead of being amused though, I was taken back by her response, "Ang babaw niya."
But really, isn't kababawan one of the reasons why we manage to cope with life's difficulties and to meet or socialize with other people? Or rather, isn't voicing out the ideas at the top of your mind to someone whose sympathy you really aren't taking into consideration of at the moment the best way to relieve yourself of all these frustrations? I've been there... and until now I have yet to find the words to explain how great it feels to just say what you've always wanted to say-- on a personal blog.
And now a warning before I get into the meat of this entry. Being preachy is, sadly one of my characteristics. I cannot help it. I must throw questions when something bothers me. Otherwise I lose sleep or appetite or God-knows-what-else by denying my (apparently) nature. Why must we always be so euphemistic and evasive about our friends faults anyway when others are vicious to next-to-complete-strangers without any better reason than to show that they're "better"?
Being a critic has really been a very costly career path; you risk being disliked for your opinions or liked but deny your own sensibilities and intellectual development (and perhaps even the years of study you went through to "assess critically) in the process.
There's a wave of bitterness going around. Some are rationally-defended, others are mere bursts of emotion. Well, they're all forgivable and all "acceptable" since blogs are your personal space to voice out whatever it is you want to write. However, it is one thing to complain about something which must be changed or improved, and it is another to simply complain because it is not to your liking. My God, I'm getting sick of seeing nothing but negativity, as if that's where correct judgment lies! It's one thing to criticize, and another to complain, obviously; there's a big difference between letting your words voice out your concerns and using them as a medium to actually contribute to a positive change in "the way things are".
Problems are so easily magnified, especially when there are supporters to your cause. That's why-- if one actually cares about making a difference at all and not being just another voice box-- you must look beyond the problems... find the solutions! AND, don't expect your solution to work the first time. There will ALWAYS be set-backs.
and here I quote my favorite line from Charlie Chaplin's Modern Times...
"Buck up, never say die. We'll get along!"
Sure enough, it's a positive outlook that will get you through things. And it's the negativity you allow yourself to wallow in which will drag you further down. In any case, our freedom has allowed us to choose how we carry our crosses...