It was June 3, 1976, when my sister Joan and her husband Ted went on their very first outing as a couple after the birth of their son. Aaron had been born nine months earlier, to the great joy of all of his family. He was the first local grandchild for my parents. He was a bit colicky, and, of course, a first child, so Joan had been reluctant to leave him, especially merely for recreation.
Finally, she was ready to rebuild their social life. So while Joan and Ted rode roller coasters and ate amusement park food with their friends, my parents and I babysat Aaron. I was 17; with that combination of ignorance and arrogance best brought to life by a teenager. Aaron had one of those baby-walkers that, back then, were built narrowly enough to fit through a doorway.
We religiously kept the door to the stairway shut. Which is why I don't know even now how it could have happened. In seconds, Aaron fell down the 3 stairs to the landing by the garage door, his baby-walker upended. I reached down for him, then my mother grabbed him, and in a moment my parents were in the car, headed to the local hospital.
He was pronounced dead at 4:44 a.m.
My father went into the Navy after high school to avoid the factory worker life lof his father. He had a scientific mind and a knack for the visual. Because he wore glasses, he had to choose one of the more cerebral military pursuits: he chose aerographer's school.
He was stationed in the Phillippines in 1942. Like the other Navy personnel, he evacuated to the island of Corregidor before the fall of Bataan and the Death March. When Corregidor fell in May, 1942, they were captured by the Japanese, transferred to burning hot, packed, stinking railroad cars, and sent to various prison camps in the Phillippines pending final transfer to Japan.
They made it to Japan on the bottom deck of what are known as "hell ships," reeking steel buckets of human misery akin to the slave ships of the 18th century. Shortly after arrival in the Japanese prison camp, Dad was chosen camp commander. He did not outrank the others; he was an enlisted man. Although some of the officers in their ranks were miffed, they, too, grew to appreciate his leadership.
I don't know most of what happened in the prison camp. I do know, though, that Dad endured many beatings on behalf of the other men for such infractions as demanding better food. Many of them felt indebted to him for life. One who felt that way was a short, dark-haired man named Joe Perry.
Our family received kind greetings from Joe Perry every Christmas, birthday and first Communion without fail, including 1976. When I was 7, without announcement, a beautiful new blue bicycle arrived for me. It wasn't my birthday or Christmas, it was just Joe Perry thinking of Dad and his family. I don't know exactly what Dad did for Joe - I wish I did. But there's no doubting that Joe was deeply grateful to my father and would be for life.
Aaron died early on a Saturday morning. Our stunned and devastated family attended mass that Sunday, barely able to find our way to the pew; the world had become thoroughly unfamiliar.
After we got home, Dad told us he had seen something. As he walked up to the altar for Communion, from the corner of his eye, he saw someone he knew. He turned his head to look and saw Joe Perry, standing in the communion line, tenderly holding Aaron in his arms.
Weeks later, we learned that Joe Perry had died. On June 3, 1976.
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