I have been doing a great deal of thinking about resilience. At the very core is the fact that there is a loss and a requirement to continue on, to fill the empty place. Sometimes we can look to the tricks and turns of nature. There are those who have loses from hurricanes, floods, fires, even robberies.
How do those who recoup from natural disasters fare compared to those who have loses from wars, from sudden attacks such as September 11, or the Oklahoma bombings?
What about drunk driving accidents where lives are shattered? How do individuals who were drinking and caused the death or maiming of an innocent person pull themselves up? How does life go on after the accident when one becomes wheel chair bound?
And in today’s economic climate how are those who have worthy goals reacting when circumstances beyond their control prevent them from reaching their prescribed finish line?
We say “When one door closes another opens”. We say, “It’s really for the best”. We say “Time heals all wounds”.
In my book “Don’t Bring It to Work” I talk about Azim Khamisa whose son, a college student, was shot and killed while delivering pizza. During the trial, Khamisa identified with the murderer’s grandfather who had been the young boy’s caretaker. Together they talked about the tragedy if the teen were allowed to rot in prison for years.
Eventually they created a program called Violence Impact Forum for the San Diego schools, the essence is to help youngsters learn about conflict resolution, and learn to take a moment and think before committing acts of violence.
This is resilience in action! Let me know of people in your life who have risen beyond tough situations. We need lots of resiliency stories to help us find our own courage in these fast changing times.
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Girl Scouts USA; American Cancer Society; Big Brothers and Sisters organization; International Center for Unity (ICU);