You've mapped out the pros and cons, assigned values and weight to each factor; yet you still can't decide. Neither choice feels like the right one. You know the decision may not be perfect, but you want it to feel right.
When we make a choice, especially a difficult one, there is a loss, no matter which decision we make. Grieving is painful and some of us avoid it to our own detriment. I call this the "Trade-off Dilemma."
In my psychotherapy practice as well as in my personal life I've encountered how difficult it is for people to make big decisions.
Do I quit my job?
Do I leave my relationship?
Should I move the family out of state?
Recently, I counseled Peter, a middle-aged man trying to decide whether to leave a high-powered position in order to move out of state to a job with a smaller salary but closer to his family. He and I talked about what he would lose with each of the choices. Then I asked him, "Which loss can you handle grieving?" This was an "ah-ha" moment for him.
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