It's a wonderful gift to be the parent of twins, but it's a gift that can often leave you breathless. Who, but the parents of twins, can truly understand the joys, challenges, and unexpected moments that multiples bring? As a mother of twins and two singletons, author Susan M. Heim has plenty of twins tips, tales, trivia, and more to share. Plus, she offers the unique voices of other twins parents who tackle the important questions on raising twins of any age. With lots of common sense, humor, and encouragement, It's Twins will help ease your anxieties, and put the fun and love back into the ever-challenging role of raising multiples.
Susan gives an overview of the book:
As any parent of multiples knows, twins are a double blessing-but also a double challenge! What a wonderful gift you've been given to be the parent of multiples! Of course, you know this and treasure your special role, but you've also discovered that life takes on an added dimension of upheaval when your kids arrive as a set. These challenges are unique to those in the "multiples club," and therefore standard parenting books are often inadequate to address the needs of families with twins (or more). That's why this book, It's Twins! Parent-to-Parent Advice from Infancy Through Adolescence, is especially tailored for parents like you who are navigating the turbulent waters of parenthood with twins. You'll read stories and advice relating to your own unique family situation. You'll be encouraged to really appreciate your very special children. And you'll learn how to handle the extra needs that accompany them.
It's Twins! was written with two important assumptions in mind:
1) Only parents of twins really know what you're going through! I've seen parents of multiples literally roll their eyes when other people try to tell them what parenting twins is like. They just don't have a clue! Having closely spaced children is not the same. Parents still have time to get to know the first child as an individual before the second one arrives. And even siblings who are only ten months apart are at vastly different developmental stages when they're young. The dynamics just aren't the same as they are when you have twins. Therefore, the best advice for raising twins and multiples comes from other parents of twins and multiples. They are the true "experts" in this field, so this book is chock-full of great advice from twins' parents who are walking in your shoes.
2) Parents of twins just don't have time to read long, heavy and dull advice books! How many times have you bought a parenting book and then it languished on the shelf? Chances are, it just looked too intimidating to forage through when your time is precious. Parents of multiples told me that current parenting books on the market are too dry and "textbooky." Of course, I had to see for myself, so I went to the bookstore and looked at all of the books about raising twins-only to find that parents of multiples were absolutely right! I couldn't imagine having the time or patience to read any of them, and I resolved right then and there that this book would be different. Parents of multiples let me know that they want quick, to-the-point advice that can be absorbed in a few minutes of reading. They want to be entertained while they are learning. They want tips and suggestions tailored to their own particular situation. And that's what you hold now in your hands-a book that has been organized into lots of bite-sized pieces of wisdom and fun for easy consumption!
How to Use This Book
Not everyone is going through the same phase of life with their twins, so there is no such thing as "one-size-fits-all" advice. Many books on today's market are geared toward new parents and assume that advice is no longer needed for parents of older kids. But that is so wrong! There are new challenges and decisions to be made at every stage of our children's lives, from the first days of life until they leave the nest. Therefore, this book has been divided into age-appropriate sections so that you know right where to go for the best advice for your family.
PART ONE: TWIN BABIES (Ages 0-1)
PART TWO: TWIN TODDLERS AND PRESCHOOLERS (Ages 2-4)
PART THREE: TWIN KIDS (Ages 5-11)
PART FOUR: TWIN 'TWEENS AND TEENS (Ages 12-17)
Just check the table of contents for your twins' age group and jump to the appropriate pages. But if you do find yourself with a little more reading time, it's also a good idea to read the other sections, too, because they all have information that's relevant to parents raising multiples of any age. Look for these great features:
TWINS TALES: These are real-life stories written by parents of multiples about the joys and challenges of raising their kids. Some of them will make you laugh; some will put tears in your eyes; most will have you nodding your head in agreement. You'll love these stories, whether your kids are 1 or 21!
TWINS TIPS: These are quick nuggets of advice for fast and easy reference. They get right to the point in dispensing the best in parenting wisdom.
INTRIGUING TWINS: These fascinating profiles of accomplished twins can be shared with your children, inspiring them to reach for the stars and encouraging them to be proud of their twin status.
TWINS TRIVIA: These informational pieces will dispel some myths about twins and reveal the truths about being a multiple.
POINTS TO PONDER: These guided questions will encourage you to record your own special moments and memories in living life with twins, and they'll help you clarify your thoughts and priorities when challenges come your way.
And, of course, throughout the book, you'll find lots of helpful advice from me and other parents of twins. These tricks-of-the-trade will help you get through all the new experiences you'll be having in raising multiples. It's Twins! is the ultimate "go-to guide" for all parents of multiples, whether you're a brand-new parent, racing after toddlers, having fun with school-aged kids or raising adolescent twins. And, of course, if you've got triplets, quads or more, this book has a lot to offer you, too! With lots of common sense, humor and parental input, It's Twins! is sure to put the fun and love back into your ever-challenging role of raising twins. I hope you'll find it becomes your "parenting companion" throughout the years of raising your little blessings. And please be sure to send copies to anyone you know who's expecting or raising multiples.
Susan M. Heim
Susan Heim is an author and editor, specializing in parenting, multiples, and women's issues, and is a former Senior Editor for the bestselling Chicken Soup for the Soul series. Susan's books include It's Twins! Parent-to-Parent Advice from...
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