A friend of mine is dying. I suppose I should say acquaintance, because I see her only occasionally and never for very long. We've never had the long, heart-to-heart talks that are frequently a feature of friendship. Still, I want to think of her as a friend. She is bright, funny, a wonderful dog trainer, and a great writer.
She has had cancer for many years now, and I thought she was beating it. How can you have cancer for so long and not beat it? Yet, according to her blog, http://patsteer.com/2012/04/and-the-cancer-patient-learning-process-continues/ she is not beating it.
Now, she wants a safe haven for the time she has left. She wants, and needs, or will need, 24/7 care, in a professional setting, and she can't get it. Money isn't the problem. She has insurance, and enough money to pay for the care. The problem is that the hospice facility she has researched and chosen, will not accept her. She's not dying fast enough for them. If she only had a week or two left of life, they'd take her, but because she may live six month or longer, there's no room at the inn.
I don't know all the ins and outs of health care, or hospice care, but this seems just plain wrong. Yes, she could pay for live-in help, but that's not what she wants. Read her blog. She wants the ease of the professional facility.
She's not asking for a cure, she's not asking why. She's not asking for free care. She's just asking for a place to die comfortably. That doesn't seem like such a big request, but apparently, it's too big to fulfill.
Causes Susan Ewing Supports
Arts Council for Chautauqua County
American Cancer Society
Cat Writers' Association, Inc.