It's normal to fantasize about a "better" version of yourself. As more heroic, smarter, powerful, successful, generous, kinder than you are. (Or more cutthroat or vengeful than you are.) These fantasies can serve as ideals of who we want to become -- and thus can be blueprints, showing us how to get from how we are now to who we want to be in the future.
At this time of year particularly, who among us has not fantasized about having a great "summer body"? Does this fantasy serve as a blueprint for how to get there? Almost invariably not. That's because for most people the ideal of a summer body is as attainable as becoming Batman. That is, it's not realistic for the vast majority of people.
So I want to talk about fantasizing in a different direction -- about being comfortable with the body you actually have.
Read the rest at AOL/Huffington Post's Healthy Living.
Thanks as usual to Gina Misiroglu of Red Room for putting me in touch with the AOL people. It's just one of the great ways she's bringing traffic to Red Room and getting attention for Red Room's authors.