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She is a nice girl. 

I don’t have anything against her.

She means well whenever she invites me to hang out.

But more often than not I decline.

I’m picky about who and where I hang out.

I also have to be in the mood otherwise it becomes a drag for me.

 

We see each other on occasion.

We chat a bit, at times she pushes to go deeper but I am guarded and careful.

Not because I don’t like her.

I am just selective about sharing personal stuff with people.

There’s something about her that does not seem to connect with me.

It’s not a bad thing.

It’s just off beat as in out of sync.

 

One excuse after another she finally makes a comment.

She says that everyone is busy but if I don’t make time then we’ll never see each other.

She has a point but unfortunately it’s not my point.

I have other things to do.

Sometimes better things and sometimes just nothing to do.

I don’t have a problem doing nothing.

I like doing nothing when I’ve had a long day.

If I have something better to do then I make time.

 

I’m going on and on about this because I feel that she’s laid down an ultimatum.

I don’t like how it makes me feel.

I won’t budge.

She may give up.

I know myself.

 

If it’s worth the extra mile I won’t need convincing.

I have friends I rarely see.

But when they call or visit I am quick to agree.

No need to push.

No need to pretend.

 

If it feels right and comfortable I am easy.

Hanging out shouldn’t have to be a strain.

I hate to dampen anyone’s mood.

Too bad she’s a nice girl.

I honestly just don’t feel it.

 

I’m sorry that my seminar got cancelled this weekend.

I’m sorry that I have to wait one more Saturday before sign language finals.

But I’m not sorry my deaf buddy was late today because I love signing with him!

And I’m not sorry I flaked on her because frankly there just isn’t enough to hold on to.

 

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I've been in this situation

I've been in this situation many times, Rina and I know how difficult it is to maintain your stance. I have no suggestion though-tough call. m

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Interesting post...

Very interesting commentary on life and its possible relationships.  I so understand loving to do nothing, but if someone does not understand it, there is little way to explain that desire.

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There really should be no

There really should be no need to explain one's availability or the lack of it.  When I get turned down I accept whatever reason comes along with it and at times when there is no reason I accept it too.  I understand it because I am this way.  When a person cannot accept no or "im busy" or "another time" -- then the possibility of the desire to do otherwise in the future gets a little more difficult than it already is.... not everyone gets it ....

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Stick to your instincts and

Stick to your instincts and woman's intuition, Rina--you know best who you feel most comfortable with.  I've been there and it is a very difficult situation.

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Thanks for the moral support

Thanks for the moral support Judee.  Happy New Year!  Difficult it is but compromising does me worse!  I should honor my gutt and stop torturing myself.... :-)