Or so says Kate Copstick, the new owner of the U.K's Erotic Review.
Erotic Review is a sometimes published, always struggling erotic magazine that has been described by some as 'middle-class porn.' Their tag line is: "Entertainment for people who can still think with their clothes off... " It is now owned, apparently, by a woman who can't think with her clothes on.
Copstick says: "Women get all wishy-washy and focus on emotions rather than the engorgement of blood vessels." Of course, she sees herself as the only exception to this statement. How delightfully modest.
She goes on to say, "It's almost like writing about food ... Ladies who lunch, should not really write about food because they don't really love food. They don't salivate at the thought of a great steak."I'm assuming she's telling us that women don't really like sex. They've just been pretending. One has to wonder who all those vibrators are being sold to, then - romantics and emotionalists who use them to soothe aching muscles?
As a magazine, Erotic Review has been struggling for years. I can only think this ridiculous statement is an attempt on the part of Ms Copstick to get free publicity for her recently acquired publication. Either that or she's a piss poor editor who has no concept of the current landscape of the genre. The stereotyping of women erotic writers burying good sex under a blanket of emotion was old when Anais Nin penned her work, and embarrassingly archaic now.
However, beyond the vitriol, I'm hoping that her controversial proclamations will bring more male writers to the genre. For the last 10 years, the erotica and sex-writing genres have been dominated by women, both as readers and writers. So if this does anything to encourage more men to write and publish erotica, that will be a good thing.
It's not that men and women write about sex differently. I've read male erotica writers who are all about context, all about emotion. I've read women writers who are about nothing more than scratching the itch. Every writer brings their own understanding of sex to the table when they write about it. The best ones can suck you into a glimpse of their sexual space and turn you on there.
Dinosaurs like Copstick need to go away. This isn't about gender, and it hasn't been for years. And that the magazine doesn't even have an online edition of its own speaks volumes about the stuck-in-the-seventies mentality resident there.
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