(Updated August 21st, 2012.)
In his memoir Palimpsest, the late Gore Vidal wrote that “a memoir is how one remembers one’s own life, while an autobiography is history, requiring research, dates, facts double-checked.” It’s natural that the aspects we remember and want to make into a book are turning points: a religious awakening (as described by G. Willow Wilson and Kaya Oakes in their memoirs The Butterfly Mosque and Radical Reinvention), personal catastrophe (Madeline Sharples writes about her son’s suicide in Leaving the Hall Light On), or recovery from serious illness (Diana Raab’s Healing With Words) or addiction (Albert Flynn DeSilver’s Beamish Boy).
Earlier this month, we asked Red Roomers to blog about their favorite memoirs. A few posts stood out:
- M.F.K. Fisher wrote beautifully about her life of food, travel, and love. Even her not-so-positive books (like the one about survival during wartime, when food is scarce) inspire member Zenaida Recidoro, as she recounts in "Eating Wolves."
- In "My Favorite Memoir," author Madeline Sharples writes about the connection she felt to Dina Kucera when reading her memoir Everything I Never Wanted To Be, even though Kucera's background and harrowing tale bore only a slight resemblance to her own.
- Author Scott Adlerberg is almost surprised by a memoir that talks about a happy childhood! He writes about English author W. H. Hudson's Far Away and Long Ago in his entry, also entitled "My Favorite Memoir."
These bloggers will receive books by Red Room authors:

“I was raised in a clock tower with bats in the belfry.” So begins, Beamish Boy, the harrowing account of Albert Flynn DeSilver’s inspirational journey from suicidal alcoholic to Poet Laureate and beyond. Not your typical addiction memoir, Beamish Boy reads more like a witty and poetic novel, offering a profound window into the human condition, complete with its tragedies and ecstasies—illuminating one man’s quest for lasting wisdom.

More used to mosh pits and pro-choice rallies, Kaya Oakes decided to return to the Catholic Church of her Irish roots after running away for thirty years. Radical Reinvention is a story of transformation, not only of Kaya’s from ex-Catholic to amateur theologian, but ultimately of the cultural and ethical pushes for change that are rocking the world’s largest religion to its core.

Leaving the Hall Light On charts the near-destruction of one middle-class family whose son committed suicide after a seven-year struggle with bipolar disorder. Madeline Sharples's memoir combines memoir with an uplifting story of grief recovery, resilience, and survival. Special congratulations to Madeline, by the way: Leaving the Hall Light On was rereleased in paperback earlier this month by Dream of Things.
Don't forget to check out all the favorite memoir blogs. Many memoirs show how coming through crisis leads to a creative shift: many memoirists are first-time authors, and even experienced authors who publish a memoir usually write about crises that led to growth. With her frank and harrowing I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, Maya Angelou inspired generations of voices that, without her example of overcoming racism, sexism, and horrifying abuse, never would have been emboldened to write their own stories and change their own lives. (All of Red Room's past blog challenge wrap-ups are listed here.)
Thanks as always for blogging!
–Huntington W. Sharp, Senior Editor, Red Room (who thought his favorite memoir was Vidal's Palimpsest, by the way, until Zenaida Recidoro brought up M.F.K. Fisher's The Gastonomical Me—conflict!)
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People Who Throw Stones...
The Glass Castle, by Jeannette Walls, is a story of the amazing survival instincts of children who are left virtually on their own during their formative years.
These children manage to navigate an adult world in which their father tries to include them in his dream of building a castle though he cannot keep a job, and their mother does not provide food on a regular basis.
They learn to show up at their neighbors' or school friends' homes just in time for dinner in order to keep from starving, for instance, and most of the time are left on their own. Through it all, they support each other.
It's my favorite memoir so far, as Walls skillfully weaves the story of her fractured fairytale existence.
With the Kisses of his Mouth
Monique Roffey’s memoir, With the Kisses of his Mouth, is a life-changing read. Roffey's talent lies in venturing into the explosive terrain of sexuality with rare honesty. Roffey is an extraordinarily brave writer. As in life, she lays herself bare on the pages of her memoir as she sets out on her quest. With the Kisses of his Mouth traces the story of her break-up with a fellow writer and her attempts to put her life back together after the storm. Heartbreak triggers a sexual odyssey, which is as much about understanding the relationship that went wrong as about following the tangled, unexplored paths desire lays down before her.
Roffey tries everything and everyone – strangers looking for sex without strings on Craigslist (the "bargain-basement of all internet dating sites"), bodyworkers, erotic masseurs, tantric sex practitioners, sex workshops, tantra festivals. She immerses herself in sexual experiences and writes about them with uninhibited candor. The carnal is not just the carnal in Roffey’s hands. Her descriptions of these encounters are poignant. Roffey’s tone is warm and witty, and the book sparkles with quiet humor. To write about one’s sex life is tough. To write about it intelligently, without succumbing to the tug of self-pity or the temptation of self-aggrandizement is even more of a challenge. Roffey is perfectly poised while she recounts her trysts with the swirling current of desire.
Roffey is in her early 40s when she writes The Kisses of her Mouth. Her memoir stares middle-age in the eye without flinching, while tracing the tenuous connection between body and soul, heart and head, and the place of sex in our lives in our time.
Dina Kucera's book
Thank you so much for choosing my entry. However, the title of Dina Kucera's book is:
Everything I Never Wanted To Be
not, Everything I Wanted To Be.
Corrected.
Thanks, Madeline!
Huntington Sharp, Red Room
Thank you
Huntington,
Thanks so much.
All best, Madeline