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Loyalty; The Dying Attribute


I haven’t blogged in quite a while. I’ve just been so busy with the various shows I’m preparing for and producing that I simply haven’t had the time. Recently I was reminded of something my Grandpa use to tell me and something I wanted to share…..

Grandpa said loyalty was a dying attribute and something that many wish they had and many others will take advantage of.

I use to marvel at that statement but some 30 years later and having lived a little bit I finally understand what he meant by that.

Please allow me to tell you a little story about something that happened recently that made me understand what my very wise Grandpa was trying to teach me.

Spiro is, or I should say was, a waiter at the same hotel restaurant for nearly 35 years. That’s a long time to be a waiter, and, at least by American standards, a very long time to be employed at the same place. Being a waiter isn’t an easy job and damn near impossible at this particular hotel for numerous reasons the main one being he worked at an overpriced understaffed hotel and the customers were hardly ever happy.

Anyhow, Spiro was set to retire and on his last day he was very sad. You see he’d spent his entire adult life working there. He felt melancholy and rightly so. This job helped him support his wife and two kids; he’d spent his best years there, but what saddened him the most was that no one other than a few of his co-workers even seemed to care that this would be his last day.

No gold watch. No handshake or even a thank you from the owner. He received nothing other than his government pension. Zip. Zero. Nada.

A lifetime of loyalty meant nothing….or did it?

I saw Spiro a couple weeks after this and he was happy. I asked him why and he said that while he spent his time at the hotel he didn’t spend his life there and knowing that no matter how he was treated his family was in a better place because of his loyalty.

There was that word loyalty again and it reminded me what Grandpa had said all those years ago….and the more I thought about it the more I understood just what my Grandpa meant and what he was trying to teach me.

You see, loyalty starts at home. It starts with who you are and what you are willing to do to make the lives of those around you better. It doesn’t matter what others do or even how they treat you it begins and ends with you. A person who would take advantage of your loyalty probably never understood or experienced it so who gives a rip what they think say or do….it all begins and ends with you.

Spiro was never loyal to that miserable company but to his family. He put up with a ton of crap and his family benefitted from this. He stayed and toughed it out for them and not for his self….the essence of what loyalty means.

Grandpa was spot on once again……when we look at the world today we see so many shattered families, broken homes and the like. Loyalty is a dying attribute that many wish they had; those that have never experienced what true loyalty actually is will never understand it and those who would take advantage of that loyalty really aren’t worth another thought.