Women are defensive about their choices and that's totally understandable. In a time of cultural flux, someone else's decisions and accommodations can feel like a reproach. One of my favorite scenes in the book is between two sisters who have very different lives, and as they're talking while doing the dishes, they realize that if they weren't sisters they'd be incredibly judgmental about one another. It was a really amazing moment, yet it happened while they were doing dishes. All the best moments happened when people were doing something really ordinary.

-Me, quoted on Randomhouse.com, August 2001