For the first time, my three children and I all reside in different parts of the country, and getting together over the holiday is both a challenge of logistics and a cost factor, but one which I think is worth circumventing.
In as much as I think I want to be detached, I know I will never be able to detach myself from these three people nor do I want to. We have our differences, and sometimes we overstep each other's boundaries, but never for long because at the base there is unconditional love and trust, and belief in one another. Motherhood has taught me the meaning of unconditional love, which is its only willful thing that always tugs at me.
So as I anticipate us coming together I reflect on what I love about each child, now all young adults.
Shola, the oldest, an exquisite beauty, is a smart, level-headed mediator; a friend I can be honest with completely; someone wiser than her years,always striving to build a floor were peace, thoughtful expression and effective communication occur. She has a knack for attracting opportunities; she is talented, but will help others to shine first...
Jaja, the middle child and only boy, sandwiched my two very vocal sisters, is sensitive, philosophical, athletic and handsome. With him I can be quiet and it is okay, but he can be more silly than I am and his laughter bounces like drunken stars; he can make you feel at ease and that it is perfectly alright to just be. Sometimes, he needs to be prodded.
Teju, the wash-belly child, is fiercely determined, creative, a go-getter, she is intends to change the world for the better. A crusader, always juggling too many balls, feeling deeply for family and friends, bright, articulate, speak her mind, she is poised; she is a loyal and fierce friend, she wants and will achieve a great deal, a thinker/traveler, she is willing to go without knowing what's around the bend.
So when we come together in a few days, all of us with strong personalities, all of us opinionated and full of convictions, we will giggle silly, we will clash, but we will enjoy each other and celebrate the spirit of life.
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