I was hanging out with friends and a couple got into a minor squabble. Someone lamented the lack of video instant replay in their lives. The thinking went that so many of our disputes would be so much more effectively resolved if we could go to the videotape to see who was right.
I think this misses some of the great characteristics of any healthy relationship – tolerance, acceptance, understanding.
It is in the not knowing that we build the character of ourselves and our relationships. Think about how you act in these situations.
- I think I’m right, but I’m going to acquiesce gracefully because the point isn’t important to me.
- I have no idea if I’m right, but I’ve argued myself into a corner and now have to figure out how to unbury myself while preserving my ego and our relationship.
- I know I’m right and care deeply about the outcome, but I have to balance that with my concern for your feelings.
Videotape would destroy all of these nuances of our relationships. In fact, in relationships, who is right isn’t nearly as important as how we choose to pursue what we believe is right. Videotape would make everything about right and wrong. Not knowing makes everything about who we choose to be with one another.
Causes Noah Blumenthal Supports
The Miami Children's Hospital - They receive 10% of all royalties from Be the Hero. Why? You'll have to read the book to find out.