First, understand what we want. Sometimes that's hard. We think we want the dream but what is the dream? Is it sold in novels, plays, movies and television shows, shared in other life stories, created in legends, myths, poems and songs? Maybe its whispered to us as we sleep. Maybe our gods, parents and teachers whisper those dreams to us. Maybe the Fates or our genes tell us our dreams but we turn away. That's not where we've been told to look. We're told, that's not sensible. Be sensible. Be logical. Make something of yourself.
I looked for my dream outside myself, hunting society's crevices and organizations to see my dream. I didn't find it there so I turned inside. I looked in my heart and my mind and found it somewhere in a small, secret place created by both. It's hard to reach at first but the path because familiar, easier to travel with each effort and visit.
Sometimes you try to find your dream. You listen to the teachers and advisors and think and read, and you say, this is my dream. You develop a dream to achieve a dream and become lost in dreams. You want a happy life, to be married, with happy and healthy children. That's the dream but to do it, you go to school. Finishing school and graduating becomes the dream. Then you want to employ your new skills and finding a job to do so becomes the dream. Then you want to succeed for your company and help them make money, and your company's success becomes your dream. Then you want to make it to the end and retire so you can realize your dreams and you awaken and wonder, what is my dream?
The hard path is knowing what to do and doing it. No, the hard path is not being afraid to try and not fearing failure. The hard path is finding your dreams and your principles and not letting one subvert the other.
The hard part is not fearing life and death, not accepting either while accepting both, trying to change things that you think need to be changed and not changing the things that you can't change and knowing the difference. The hard part is understanding and accepting the difference.
The hard part is saying, I don't have the talent but I'll keep trying, or I don't have the talent and I'm going to quit. They're both the hard part, the paradox of life, always caring even when you don't care, rising again and again to make the decisions and carry on.
That's the hard path, and the hard part. That's life. The hard part is not looking back and wishing you'd created a different dream.
Causes Michael Seidel Supports
Kiva, Women's International League for Peace and Freedom, Propublica.org, Doctors Without Borders, GreaterGood.com