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I've grown up learning that calling someone queer when they're gay isn't proper. There were a few occurences associated with that last week.

1. I was talking with a guy in his late twenties who's running for planning commissioner. He and I sat side by side and listened to a young woman talk about being a lesbian and struggling to be treated as an equal to others in America. Her speech was heartfelt.

My table mate was the next speaker. He began by saying, "I just want to say that people of my generation think it's stupid that gays, lesbians, bi-sexuals and transexuals are still fighting for their rights. We have heard about this all of our lives and it just doesn't make sense to us. There's no question that they deserve the same rights as everyone else."

I hope he speaks for his generation.

2. My neighbors from across the stree were present. They're in their 80s and come from small Missouri towns. We talked about the equality issue. The man said, "I don't believe I knew there was something like homosexuals until I was in college. I just never heard about it and I never gave it a thought."

His wife said, "I don't think I learned about homosexuals and lesbians until after college."

Both were surprised and chagrined about it.

3. Talking with another young man, I think he's about twenty, later last week, who is gay. Sorry, I'll still use that term. He told me that he and his friends are calling themselves queers. They're taking the word back as a matter of defiance. 

It reminded me of U2 in concert.  Bono says, "This is a song Charles Manson stole from the Beatles. We're stealing it back." They then played Helter Skelter.

They're stealing it back. It's a changing, complex world. I hope I can keep up. I hope that there is some day when our world and nations aren't still trying to decide who is equal and deserves equal treatment based on their place of birth...race...religion...sex...sexual orientation...ethnicity...age...or anything else people can find to use as a basis to discrimate.

Maybe someday, there will an entry on the calendar that says, "On this day in history, the President of the United States signed the Equal Person Amendment, recognizing that all people are created equal, with equal rights that cannot be denied by another, for any reason."

I hope we all live to see that day. 

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or anything else people can find to use as a basis to discrimate.

Ah, yes, Michael. The problem seems to be that there are those who just want to find something to discriminate against. They examine a person, or situation, until--AHA--that is something I cannot tolerate!

I dunno. It looks like a lot of change will have to happen to human nature.

From a good many folks I know, I'd say it's not very likely.     sigh

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I share your sigh

Good insight. They have to find something, and they can't tolerate. Meanwhile, let's stay hopeful and keep trying. 

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I once had a date with a

I once had a date with a British man who expressed shock at how many gay male friends I had.  "I've never met a gay man," he declared proudly.  Given my theatrical background and circle of friends (many of whom are musical theatre folk) – and the fact that this guy had no interest in early Renaissance Spanish music – I concluded he really wasn't right for me.  

All right, I could have lived with his not sharing this particular musical taste of mine.  But I could never be with a man who is so narrow-minded about people who are gay.

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Hi Katherine

I wonder if he still believes that and if he's never met a gay man? I wonder how many gay men he met who realized that he wouldn't be tolerate of learning they're gay?

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