I've been involved in a work conflict with one of the geo analysts.
He consistently vexes me and my team. We ask him to do something, he returns with lengthy, condescending and pedantic explanations of why our one paragraph suggestion will not work, going into numerous tangents. It's like asking how hot you think it will get today and receiving a lecture back on climate history and weather patterns without ever learning how hot he thinks it will be.
He had one suggestion in particular that stumped me. He posted it back in March and I've researched it then. What he was telling me just didn't make sense with what I knew. I've had several mentors in my duties for different areas in the past so I reached out to all of them. Each responded with wonderfully intelligent and useful emails rich with information but they were also at a loss why this guy was insisting that this is a problem, or really, the nature of the problem.
So after months of investigation, I remained at an impasse with him, richer in knowledge and insights but not able to resolve our differences. My boss has been included in these discussions but has remained on the sidelines. I finally wrote him on Tuesday and told him, I'm at a loss, I can't resolve our differences, and can't figure out the problem. As far as I could tell, we were doing it all right and the problem is the other guy.
My boss wrote back a lengthy response almost immediately, agreeing. He'd seen all my correspondence with the analyst and my mentors and agreed with my conclusions. The other team members chimed in, stating the same in different ways.
Yet I remain frustrated. While my manager and team mates' comments reassured me, I feel like I'm missing something and that bothers me.
Really, though, most vexing is that I will finally reply to the guy and tell him that I think he's wrong, and he'll continue fighting it, and nothing will become resolved.
That is probably what is most disheartening.
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