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Aug.10.2013
 Many years ago, I read a book called The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale. At the time, my life was such a mess that it only dipped into the surface of my mind. However, nothing is ever lost; everything we ever read, see, experience or even imagine never leaves that...
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Aug.03.2013
When I was a child, we had a mind game we played repeatedly, always with the same results. The question? Would you rather be a live coward or a dead hero?  The reality of life had not yet reached us as we always pronounced proudly and with a smug face, A Dead Hero. I doubt that many of my...
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Jul.27.2013
When I began recovery many years ago, I had no resources. My family doctor of many years, alarmed at how many anti-depressants and sleeping pills I was using told me he no longer believed the story I had been telling him for years that my father hadn’t sexually abused me. He sent me to a therapist...
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Jul.20.2013
I woke up yesterday feeling anxious, knots in my stomach, a feeling of impending doom. This is not normal for me, as, since completing my self-enforced program of recovery many years ago, I’ve pretty much been the happiest person I know. I’ve had moments of stress, for the most part something that...
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Jul.13.2013
How many of you know someone sexually abused as a child? How many of them have a child sexually abused? I know families who have three generations with incest prevalent in all three. Even worse, I know families with the legacy of incest present in all three and no one in the family feels that they...
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Jun.27.2013
 Tomorrow I go into the hospital for hip replacement surgery. I’ve had to be on a special diet and do special exercises on a daily basis the last two weeks before surgery. We’ve had to drive an hour and a half four different times to do various blood tests, Joint Replacement class, x-rays, pre...
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Jun.22.2013
I have a sign over my desk that says, Destructive emotion is one of the primary causes of disease. What a powerful statement! Negative energy of any kind has an impact on your body. Dr. Vincent Felitti, along with Emoryville University and the Center for Disease Control did a study from 1995 to...
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Jun.15.2013
Here we are again. That time of year when everyone is trying to decide what to buy for Dad, what card to choose (it must say just the right words), the time when we see Happy Father’s Day written everywhere, Father’s Day Specials, even my physical therapist wearing a tie to celebrate Father’s Day....
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Jun.02.2013
We all know someone who has periodic times when they are moody, sulky maybe. Perhaps that person is us. When I was a teenager, I was constantly moody. My temperament went from severe depression to moments of elation (usually when I was climbing a tree, reading a good book nestled in the arms of my...
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May.25.2013
 The riveting story about the three girls who were kidnapped and raped, then kept prisoner for over  a decade has caught has captured the attention of the nation. Its happy ending with a daring escape and a dramatic 911 call that led to their rescue and the capture of Ariel Castro has...
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May.19.2013
“The world is so full of a number of things, I’m sure we should all be as happy as kings.”  While bedridden with tuberculosis, Robert Louis Stevenson wrote this little homily in 1883 as part of A Child’s Garden of Verses. Before I completed recovery, I would read this and it only angered me....
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May.12.2013
 Today  is Mother’s Day, that time of year when we all celebrate and honor our mothers. We send flowers, take them to brunch, buy them a gift, send them a card and a number of other great ideas. Those of us who are incest survivors and had our father as our perpetrator, at least had a...
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May.04.2013
A few years ago, I had a friend whose wife and daughter had both been child sexual abuse victims. One day he asked me, “If child sexual abuse is so prevalent maybe there’s nothing wrong with it. Maybe it’s just a normal part of civilization.” I looked at him as if he was crazy. Over the years, I’...
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Apr.27.2013
 You wouldn’t think a small word like “fear” could create such turbulent feelings in the life of a child sexual abuse victim.  You had to have been there to know why. Picture  it: An innocent child born in to a world where they have every expectation of a joyful life. After all, they...
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Apr.20.2013
 This morning I woke in a great mood, took a 30-minute walk with Guinevere, my Golden Retriever, worked in my rose garden for two hours, then took a shower and washed my hair. It was turning into a great day. Then I turned on the news to watch while I blow dried and curled my hair. The...
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