This morning I woke in a great mood, took a 30-minute walk with Guinevere, my Golden Retriever, worked in my rose garden for two hours, then took a shower and washed my hair. It was turning into a great day. Then I turned on the news to watch while I blow dried and curled my hair.
The following news report was flashing:
The family of a girl who committed suicide after she was sexually battered and then cyber bullied with a humiliating photo planned to file a civil action against the suspects on Monday and also speak publicly about the case, their representatives said.
I felt sick emotionally as I listened to the interview with the parents. It plummeted my day. Later, while checking my email I found another same exact story had happened in Canada to a young girl named Rehtaeh Parsons. Her father, Glen Canning had written a letter about what happened to his daughter that is a must read for it will indelibly print into your heart what the parents of these girls have to go through. I burst into tears. I thought of the man who raped my youngest daughter at gunpoint while she worked at Taco Bell when she was 17. I thought of my ex-husband raping me repeatedly, while I begged and screamed for him to stop, videotaping one of the episodes until I lost my mind. When I came to, I was lying underneath a chair, babbling for help. With all these pictures going through my head, I cried all day long. It had been many months since I had had such a terrible emotional time.
Too much of this brutality goes on. At the time of my sexual abuse, rape was not against the law when the victim was your wife (as my ex used to say to me while abusing me). Now, thank God it is against the law (at least in CA, which is the state I lived in at the time). Raping young girls, under the age of 18, videotaping or photographing it and then showing it to the world is one of the worst kind of sins there is. In the story of the girl in Canada who was raped, the men (they were over 18) were released, the police saying there was not enough evidence to hold them.
If only the punishments were tougher. If convicted these perpetrators would become registered sex offenders and released after too short of a sentence. They should be put away for life. If released, they will be emboldened to do it again. Evidence shows that you cannot rehabilitate perpetrators. We need to get them off the streets and back into prison where they can get some of what they dish out. I know that is unpleasant to think of but we cannot afford to be kind to these people. If you have a child, if you have been sexually abused yourselves vote for tough laws on sexual assault.
We need to all work together so that none must stand alone!
To read the letter written by Glen Canning about what happened to his daughter Rehtaeh Parsons see the following link: http://glencanning.com/2013/04/10/rehtaeh-parsons-was-my-daughter/
To see the first story that I watched please copy and paste the following link.