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Write Your Mother Memoir
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Who is she, really—this woman you call Mother? What could be more important than looking at your mother as an individual unto herself? Come along with me on a Mother's Day journey into the heart of the Mother Memoir to write a true and telling tale to let her know that you do see her by answering this question:

"If you could tell just one small story that would capture your mother's character and keep her spirit alive for years to come, what would it be?"

Moving your ego aside and searching purposefully for your mother's intrinsic character can take some time to put into practice, but it is so worth your energy to discover valuable insights. Do you know what makes (made) her tick? What buoyed or drowned her hopes and dreams? What inspired her joy, tugged at her heartstrings, or thrilled her to the depths of her soul? What enlivened her spirit or dashed it to smithereens? As The Story Woman, I'm here to encourage you to find the answers to these questions and create a stirring bio-vignette to share with your mother on May 8th. My mother died several years ago, but afterwards I wrote my short memoir honoring her, and I believe she felt it. I know my family appreciated it; it provided them a glimpse into her spirit that only I could pass on from my vantage point-one that could never be portrayed in mere photographs.

It could be that you don't even like your mother. Ouch! Perhaps, on the other hand, she's so special to you, you're so close to her, that you can't bring yourself to see her as someone distinct in her own right-someone separate from you. Maybe you don't want to look...too scary, too sad, too poignant, too intimate. As I see it, these are all valid reasons why it is essential for you to write a true story about Mother-one that embraces a special kind of memoir that peers into the heart and soul of your very first relationship.

The beauty in writing the Mother Memoir is about honoring this most basic relationship. Whether your connection with your mom was good or bad, filled with light and happiness, or misery and regret, it is an avenue toward better understanding in all its forms. Through the process of writing your telling tale, a multitude of feelings and emotions are to sure surface. Be prepared for tears and laughter, while experiencing joy, sadness, anger, thanksgiving, angst, relief, or forgiveness and appreciate this process as a path toward healing and/or a forum for celebration. With an open heart, give thanks for the wisdom you will come to realize as the journey unfolds, since history lives within us despite the passage of time.

Although her character is multifaceted and her inner make up complex, you'll look for certain aspects of her personality that stand out and echo her distinct qualities. Begin by locating that one memory or cluster of events that in the telling would impart a genuine impression of the character and spirit of your mother as seen through your eyes. What aspect of her being, what specific quality, action, or anecdote can you draw upon to bring the essence of her character to light in a short memoir? You won't trace her history in this bio-vignette or look for earth-shaking events as a basis for your story. It's the real-life, day-to-day occurrences that connect us and often bring us to our knees.

Once you have found the memory you want to shape into memoir, take a good, long reflective break from the well-formed picture you have formulated about your mother as it relates to this happening or string of events. Let go your assumptions-all of them-as you look for truth and honesty and discover buried under layers of façade the reasons why she acted or reacted as she did. You may be surprised by what you see and how you feel. You may experience an awakening or a shift in perception after distancing yourself from the event and applying maturity mixed with the willingness to look at your mother as an individual in her own right, from the inside out.

Although the idea of writing memoir can be overwhelming, remembering Mom through writing your Mother Memoir is doable. It calls for memories to be energetically crafted into words to make her spirit come alive in just a few pages creating a short, true story that has the power to reveal volumes about her. You will come to understand its impact as you move through this process and join the ranks of TellTale Souls to give Mom the most thoughtful gift she will ever receive.

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Lynn: That's a fitting and

Lynn:

That's a fitting and sweet thought, and I think a whole lot of what I do reflects her - whether in agreement or disagreement. We share a memoir, not only only memories.

Good questions you pose. Thank you.

~F

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A beautiful way to say

Farzana,
A beautiful way to say it -- we share a memoir. I'd love to hear the Mother Memoir you would write.
Thank you for your thoughts,
Lynn

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Making us think.

Thanks for making us think, Lynn. I just stopped and enjoyed some memorable moments with my mom, who died in 1989. I think I came to one special memory that may very well capture her kind and strong spirit.

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You went beyond thinking to finding!

Hi Sue,

It's always good to think - but you went beyond thinking to find that one special memory of your mom simply because you did stop to enjoy your memories of her. If you want to write it down and send it to me, I'd love to read it.
Keeping Spirits Alive,
Lynn