Last week I was really surprised when I saw on the news that Yes had won on proposition 8 in California. By the way, I´m Brazilian, I have lived in the US, I´ve been back in Brazil for some years now, and you might be wondering why don´t I mind my own business.
Well, first, if a lot of people got out of their way to interfere in other people´s lives, saying whether they could get married or not, I think I, an outsider, can use my voice to support those who were harmed, no matter where they live in or what their nationality is. In fact, I think all this wouldn´t be very different in Brazil : there are very conservative segments here, too. Second, discrimination and prejudice are issues that deserve to be looked at seriously, if we want to make any progress as civilized humans, living in this big global village.
That said, let´s move to the issue of marriage. Marriage is a contract between two parts, that´s all. Whether people sign it, and it becomes legal, or not, it´s still a contract. Full of invisible clauses between the lines. Love is a recent and welcome addition to marriage. Why ,then, prevent people who love each other to sign a contract celebrating their love? Does it really matter whether they´re man and woman, man and man, woman and woman? Religion? Oh, come on! What kind of religion is that which turns us into haters? It should be about bringing us together. And what about all those lies related to relationships people like to believe in? So-called proper marriages full of cheating and deceiving, children being treated as financial assets, or worse, ignored by their own parents. But hey, as long as it´s between a man and a woman it´s OK.
No, it´s not OK. In fact, a lot of problems we face in society are rooted in lies and indifference within domestic -and usually heterosexual -relationships.
And what about parenthood? What a great example men and women are to their children, when they show their intolerance to everything or everyone who doesn´t seem to reflect their own distorted image. What a valuable lesson to teach your children not to recognize the rights of other human beings. Worse, not to teach them that others are human beings.
I´ve been married for fifteen years now, and have two children. I married the love of my life, and I know what real love is like. I don´t love my husband because he´s a man. I love him because he´s a wonderful human being and my soul mate. I hope my children can live in a more developed society where people are not concerned about what things look like, but what they really are, in their essence.