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Ying/Yang--Love/Luck
My Love and Me

How would you feel if you were told you'd probably be blind by the end of the year? I heard that from eye doctor number one shortly after I turned forty.  Doctors two through four, said the same.  Doctor five had a plan to save most of my sight with some hope for the future, even though I had a degenerative eye disease. 

That was in 1984.  Since then, I have had several major eye surgeries to prop up my retinas, and lots and lots of laser treatment.  But I see.  Not great, but I see.  I have  core vision, but no peripheral or depth perception.  But it doesn't matter.  I see.

Lucky?  Oh, yes, I'm lucky.

One, because my husband wouldn't let the first doctor operate on me.  He had a bad feeling about him.  The next day and the day after, he took me to four more retina specialists to find the very best eye surgeon and when we found him, the surgical technique performed on me was his own experimental protocol, used on only eleven other patients before he saved some of my sight with it.

Lucky?  Oh, yes, I'm lucky.

Years later, my husband had a heart attack.  I raced back from work to take him to the doctor and he was taken by ambulance to the local hospital.  Our primary doctor told us the extent of the problem and what further testing would be needed.  When it came to choosing the doctors who would do the invasive testing procedures, our doctor suggested the right medical center, the proper specialists and the surgeon who would ultimately perform the lifesaving triple bypass.  That surgeon was Mehmet Oz. He saved Jay's life that day and seven years later, Jay is fine.  

Lucky?  Oh, yes, I'm lucky.

Just two years ago, Jay developed a deadly form of pneumonia shortly after the death of his mother and his brother, five months apart.  With his immune system very challenged, he didn't have the strength to ward of what could have started off as a bad chest cold.  After a month in the hospital, his primary doctor, cardiologist and new pulmonologist worked so well together, that this very sick man recovered and thrived. 

Lucky?  Oh. Yes.

And am I happy?  Depends on the day...But I know there's lots more to life than seeing a great broadway show, going to the ballet, attending a lavish dinner party or even seeing a movie in 3-D.  

I'd rather go to a movie matinee with Jay, make a good dinner just for us, take a long walk on the aquaduct--a beautiful pathway that runs parallel to the Hudson River--and think about all that we have survived.... oh so well.

Lucky?  Oh, you better believe it.

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Luckily

Oh Linda, I know what you mean. when my husband survived the 5-1/2 hour prostate surgery, I was so relieved -everything else paled.
When his PSA count after 6 weeks came back 0. All the other "big dreams" took a back seat to just being with him and enjoying the fact that we are both alive, and can walk and talk and eat regular food.

Thank you for a wonderful post.

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Thanks, Sharon. I think

Thanks, Sharon. I think people who discount their lives when they don't get to go on the cruise they wanted, or live in the McMansion they thought they needed don't know what really matters. Fortunately, we do.

In fact, tomorrow Jay and I are going to the Optimum on Line Free Movie that's at our local art cinema to see a film we've been waiting for.

What's more fun than lunch at the diner and a free flick? Cuddles and hugs and lots of love....that's for sure.

xx

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Thanks, Sharon. I think

Thanks, Sharon. I think people who discount their lives when they don't get to go on the cruise they wanted, or live in the McMansion they thought they needed don't know what really matters. Fortunately, we do.

In fact, tomorrow Jay and I are going to the Optimum on Line Free Movie that's at our local art cinema to see a film we've been waiting for.

What's more fun than lunch at the diner and a free flick? Cuddles and hugs and lots of love....that's for sure.

xx

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The big picture

Such a lot of information to process,and I’m so very, very glad that you’ve made it through. I didn’t know about your sight problems of course, and you have my total empathy on that score. Good doctors are the key, and yes it is luck that you found yours. Dr Oz saved the life of one of my oldest friends as well (college boyfriend) so he’s on both our gratitude lists big time.
You and Jay are just the most wonderful couple. I’ve yet to meet you in person, but that picture makes me want to hug you both (and I’m no hugger.) Mara xxx

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Hug Away!

Thanks so much, Mara.  Our lives have been dark and brilliant.  We're together so long that we encompassed all the world's issues and a lot of love.  I'll be glad to see you whenever you come to NY, and hopefully we'll head up to Maine this summer.  I'm determined to meet your in person and share the hugs.....get used to it with me!  And one  thing:  I wish that Dr. Oz was not "The Wizard," and that he'd concentrate on his specialty...and that's not scaring everyone with his dramatic reports on TV!  But he saved my love, so I have to be kind...

 

xxx and Love,

 

Linda

 

P.S. Please "Friend" Gwen.  She's wonderful.  And she saw your art and got freaky over it's wonderment!  Want my friend to know my other friends well!

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Let’s just make sure

Let’s just make sure you’re not in Maine when I’m in NY!  We will definitely meet, and perhaps Maggie and Sam can share a bone!  I agree about Oz; but who can resist Oprah?  Gwen and I are already buddies.  Got my typing skills back, so watch out world!  Love, Mara 

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Wanna See Oz in his latest life change?

This is the part that bothers me. I knew him when he was a soulful, spiritual and humble surgeon....something most surgeons never achieve beyond their surgical brilliance. Now he is the person behind his sign. Take a look a a pic I'll post on your email. And you and I wll definitely plan to be in place when the other is in NY or Maine!

xx