Jenn and Wade are shopping for nail polish. Jenn tends to pick bright colors to match her clothing; she’s also chooses the color of the polish to flatter the blush of her skin. Wade loves the high color of any polish. He tends to pick ones that coincide with the colors of his countless handbags. After they choose colors, they plan to lunch at one of their favorite restaurants before their appointment.
Wade and Jenn are both social workers, each in different spectrums of the field; each with a great deal of empathy for their clients. James and Jim are both highly successful businessmen. James is a real estate broker and Jim is a well known agent to the stars. Both men love their partners and enjoy cascading them with flowers, gifts, love and goodness. These four people are very close friends. They enjoy each other’s company while they spend time in Manhattan, taking in all the grandeur around them.
Before Jenn and James got married, Wade treated Jenn to a manicure/pedicure as a partial wedding present. Later on, he and Jim threw the happy couple a gala party with the most beautiful wedding cake either couple had ever seen.
The four of them often go to plays, concerts, ballet and movies. Their choices are diverse….On one evening, they will see an off-Broadway show; another will find them at a Lady Gaga concert. Their dining preferences encompass foods of the world, and it’s hard to fathom what type they like best. Neither couple has children so their time beyond their jobs is free to enjoy what the world offers.
Wade and Jim intend to get married when New York State allows loving couples to be married, despite their sexual preferences. Jenn and James encourage them often to take a side trip to Vermont to get married, so they can all enjoy the road trip together.
Why do I tell you this? It’s because I too, have loving friends who matter far more to me than my extended family and relatives. Friends, as I know them, are often more important than our own nuclear families. In the case of Jenn and James, Wade and Jim, however, their individual families love them and their partners deeply and celebrate their happiness in a world that tends to annihilate so many.
Jenn is my daughter; James is my son-in-law. Both of them recognize the value of friendship as well as the love of their families and friends. I’m happy that they all live here; able to enjoy the diversity and acceptance that New York and native New Yorkers have to offer.