Sometimes we believe others have understood what we have just said, but is our belief true? How can you be sure he has seen your point? There are so many mistakes in communication that we forget to listen the other person. We are so into speaking we forget to listen. Do you have the sensibility to realize the other person did not see the things the way you were trying to explain? Do you read his body talk as well?
Let's have an example:
If we are talking about what is the purpose of life, let's see what could happen.
One person believes happiness is all we've got in life, and the other one believes love is all we have.
These could be seen as two different arguments, but are they really that separated? Sometimes, both concepts as different as they could seem are actually the same seen through a different lens.
If the person who believes happiness is all, would take some time to listen the other person, he could realize happiness is brought by love.
And if the other person, who believes love is all, would listen to the one who believes in happiness he could see that if act with love, happiness will come along as well naturally.
It is in these concepts we fade apart as human beings, we forget to comprehend the other person, his beliefs, and the way he sees life. We pretend to have an idea, and then stick with it with all our force because that belief makes you feel secure about yourself.
But, what would happen if you take some time to question yourself and try to understand why do you think the way you do? Could it happen that human beings could understand each other? Could we really live world peace?
If I don't try to understand my mother when she gives me a speech about her values? If I can't understand and listen to her arguments, can I understand mine? Because even if you don't like it, your mother's thoughts and acts have lived with you as you grow, and if you listen to her, perhaps you could listen to yourself better.
You don't have to convince her about your point, but you could see how she thinks to decipher how your mind works.
Let's bring a little bit more radical point of view:
One believes money is all you need to be happy, and the other one believes kindness is all you need to be cheerful as well.
You could believe these have none in common, but in fact they are much alike. If you ask the person who wants money, why does he want it? Could money give him the kind of security he needs to feel good about himself? Could he need money because he thinks it rules the world, and he needs to feel in control of it?
Could he need money to feel he needs nothing else, and therefore reach happiness?
Well, the person who thinks kindness is all you need... Could he think this for the same need of security? Could being kind to others make him feel good about himself? Could he believe kindness is all he needs because it fills his heart with complete fulfillment?
Now, who is right or wrong? Both and None; because for example, you may need money to live, and then with what is extra you could open a shelter to help people. The person who wants to act with kindness may use money to work for his ideals, and in time understand how true happiness works.
However, the person who only wants money could also try into understanding how does kindness work. He could question himself in such a way in time he could see how to be kind to others is to be kind to yourself. He could realize we are all connected to each other, and if you help someone that same help will come back in time. He could see that when you are more worried into helping others, your own problems fade apart.
However, both may argue without an end because they are not listening to each other. What could happen if we could start not only listening to others, but listening to ourselves from the bottom of your heart?