The idea thaf we might miss out on something from which everyone else is benefiting finds us willing to participate in
any number of “opportunities”. Think of the benefit to having a specific time of the year when making resolutions is normal; we can talk about them with friends and family but the down side comes from bringing out our “me too” tendency.When we “join in” because it seems like the thing to do, we miss out on the benefit of real commitment. A friend of mine explained to me that one of the best ways to move a human being from simply being comfortable to getting something done is to secure their commitment.
When we make a New Year’s Resolution, chances are it will take us out of our comfort zone for some period of time. This requires a firm and solid commitment. Coming up with a resolutions or two while out partying with a group of friends won’t feel like an actual commitment. We say it, we don’t really mean it, and 10 to 30 day’s later we can’t even remember what it was.
We might make New Year’s Resolutions so we don’t feel left out, but this contributes their relatively high mortality rate.