Nora Ephron's new book I REMEMBER NOTHING AND OTHER REFLECTIONS from Knopf, although sometimes hilarious, has that wanna-look-away feel of someone who's been through the wringer of divorce. Since I've blogged on divorce with children I'll include her commentary. She finds some very funny reasons that divorce might be good for the adults, such as that a woman's anger will continue to be focused away from a new beau, but continues:
"But I can't think of anything good about divorce as far as the children are concerned. You can't kid yourself about that, although many people do. They say things like, "It's better for children not to grow up with their parents in an unhappy marriage." But unless the parents are beating each other up, or abusing the children, kids are better off if their parents are together. Children are much too young to shuttle between houses. They're too young to handle the idea that the two people they love most in the world don't love each other anymore, if they ever did. They're too young to understand that all the wishful thinking in the world won't bring their parents back together. And the newfangled rigmarole of joint custody doesn't do anything to ease the cold reality: in order to see one parent, the divorced child must walk out on the other."
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