Sometimes winning is overrated. Maybe that is because I’ve spent a bit of time in the loser’s circle. Yes, winners get the wreath of roses, the flute of champagne, and a nice blue ribbon, but does winning build character? I mean, does that warm, euphoric feeling really sustain you for life’s lessons?
Loss has its own redeeming attributes. It makes you think about what you are missing, contemplate what slipped through your hands, and it reminds you that life is as much about what is missing as what is complete. The missing elements inspire poets, artists, dramatists, and musicians to fill in the void, to make sense of our crazy world, and to recognize that yearning is an important part of the journey.
There are times in my life that I’ve felt that I’ve lost more than I’ve found. Losing a child, saying goodbye to a parent, sibling, or loved one, letting love slip away, or estrangement from a best friend can leave one empty and alone. It can also leave such a wide opening in your life that it can only be filled by reaching out and finding that someone has thrown you a life line.
And those are the times that I realize that no matter how much I’ve lost or fear that I will lose, there is still a wide world out there waiting to be found. I remind myself that with an open heart, something or someone is bound to find me. It’s at times like that when I realize that the winner’s circle and loser’s circle are often one and the same. It’s just a matter of perspective.
© Kelly Tweeddale 2012