Every marriage has issues. And every mother-in-law, father-in-law, daughter-in-law, son-in-law, sister-in-law, and brother-in-law is difficult to love at some point. In Love the Unlovable: In-Laws, Kelli Cooper addresses major issues that arise after uniting two people in marital bliss, with the intention of helping people learn to live with nightmare in-laws. Inside youll find biblically based, practical advice on how God would have us handle these challenging people that He has placed in our liveswhether we like it or not. Unfortunately, a close relationship with ones in-laws is far from the norm. Kelli Cooper speaks from a heart of experience in a genuine attempt to help others who find themselves in similar situations to rescue their relationships before they are too far gone. If nothing else, Love the Unlovable: In-laws is a guide to survivalhow to deal with the less than ideal!
Kelli gives an overview of the book:
Accepting help from overly controlling people really only gives them material with which to control you and "guilt-trip" you. I can just hear my mother-in-law saying, I'm good enough to give you a car, but not good enough to be in the delivery room, or something of the sort.
The first step in taking control of your life and marriage, therefore, is to get out from under someone else's thumb as quickly as you can. Save your money and learn to manage it to the best of your ability--keeping track of every cent spent. This way, you can get out on your own and have noone setting the rules for you. If you owe a lot of debt to your in-laws and they're using it to control you, pay them back as quickly as you can, whether they ask for money back or not. It will make your life easier in the long run not to owe them anything financially. Don't forget, however, that for most people, having their adult children live under their roof again, especially with children and possibly a significant other, is not easy for them either. Get out from your financial debt, but don't forget to pay up in gratitude as well. Don't forget how far appreciation goes in your life. If your mother-in-law took the time to thank you for being a great mother to her grandchildren and a fantastic wife to her less-than-perfect son, it would change the entire situation. Chances are, she'd feel the same way if you took the time to thank her for all the adjustments she made while you lived under her roof.