In my last blog, I uploaded my grandson's photo because I thought it would add a happy mood. But next time, I'll think up something else for that. For the last few days, I've been reading "The Philosophy of Discriminating Emotion" by Yoshimichi Nakajima. The book just came out on May 14, 2009.
Nakajima says putting family values as the highest is cruel to the people who have no family, or the people who are unable to love their family. The modern Japanese society considers family values as absolute, so the society looks at the people without family "sad." That's true. The majority of people tend to criticize the people who choose to have no family. They believe in their own value so extremely that they demand the same on others in a subtle way. Nakajima says that this is nothing but cruel. I agree. I know many in the same situation. Four of my neighbors live alone, and two of them lost their last family member last year.
That reminded me of this. A little while ago, an old friend of mine said something shocking to me. In our high school days, six of us were close. Now three of us are divorced, and two, married but childless. We used to get together when I returned to Japan once a year in 1980s and 1990s. We haven't had such meeting lately, but the following was a chat two of us had one day.
"Among us, I'm the only normal person," she says.
"What do you mean?" I say.
"I'm still married and have children."
I looked at the sky.
Well, since then, I've forgiven her for saying that though. She's been good to me all these years. But if she says that again, I'll translate this blog for her and tell her about the book. I just thought about it. Writing it out is a good thing.
I just want to say that I cherish everybody.