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Can One Practice Good Manners and Still Be Scrupulously Honest?
Staying Healthy in Sick Organizations: The Clover Practice (tm) is business book of the month at bookreview.com. Available on Amazon.com.

The Clover PracticeTM is intended to help people experience less stress in the workplace. Etiquette has a similar aim--to identify agreed upon behaviors up front so we don't have to rethink every social situation. The aim is smoother interactions and, by definition, less stress around what do to.

 The first leaf of The Clover PracticeTM is "Tell the truth, always," even if it's not convenient and even if we don't look too good. In reading the Red Room excerpt from Charles Purdy's Urban Etiquette (Wildcat Canyon Press, 2004), I wondered if the new etiquette is based on honesty or if so-called white lies are allowed. I am anxious to read Purdy's book to find out what he says. I am a proponent of scrupulous honesty, an intention that is simple, but not easy. I think good manners and honesty go very well together as long as they are attended by compassion.

It does matter how one tells the truth and "Tell the truth, always" does not mean airing every personal opinion, but that's another post.