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Jun.14.2009
I knew it would only be a matter of time before they came to get me, so when the black SUV pulled up in front of my house it wasn't a total surprise. Four of them hustled me out the door, forcing me to look down at the pavement as I was placed in the back seat.
We drove across a bridge and up into...
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Jun.11.2009
"What's the matter with you," Sona asked with a twinkle, "you don't like to go shopping?" She was referring not only to my near-disastrous adventure in the world of bridal couture, but the fact that--get this--I'd also arranged to have a pair of shoes custom-made for my wedding...
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Jun.05.2009
And then there were three:
Robert's dress is turning out kind of "mother of the pumpkin bride" in a Disney cartoon. Yes, it's a weird color...but it fits and it feels wonderful (all satiny on the inside, with a gorgeous lining)...best news of all is that I have had my last fitting. I've...
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Jun.02.2009
Sheila sent me a supportive and encouraging email before Fitting # 6, that said (among many other things): "No one should go with you tomorrow...if the design is fabulous the three of you can revel in the success. It should be between you and Robert at this point. Do not bring your new dress...
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Jun.02.2009
After that last disaster of a fitting, I went home and cried. My feeling was this: at two weeks before my wedding, I should be engaged in frivolous and lacy activities such as spa days and accessorizing--not wondering what I'm going to wear. And at that moment I was also flooded with grief over my...
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May.31.2009
There was a moment--I think it was fitting #3--when everything was fine. Robert's dress (actually the muslin that would become the dress' pattern) fit better; the toga draping was minimized; some magical and lovely thing had happened to the back; there was a petal-ish opening to the front of the...
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May.28.2009
Robert’s dress fittings take place in his pattern-maker Sylvie’s studio, a small space south of market where every inch of wall and floor are filled with her own fanciful creations, many of which feature fabric rosettes. So, even though I never would have thought this up on my own, my wedding...
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May.25.2009
When we last left our heroes, I was resigning myself to looking like John Belushi at my wedding, Sheila was getting ready to punch out the dress designer, and Audrey had succumbed to her inner new-age-post-modern poet. Susanne was in Miami and New York, but happy to start a new dress search if only...
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May.20.2009
The usual suspects were all unavailable to attend that first wedding dress fitting (real-life excuses ranged from "my husband is having surgery" to "I'll be on a plane to visit my aging father" to "I have to take a friend to her oncologist"...facts of middle-aged...
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May.17.2009
I blame myself.
I didn't do my homework--not the part where you're supposed to go through fashion magazines and cut out pictures of dresses you like, and not the part where you have your shoes and jewelry and underwear all figured out before your first fitting. I also kind of forgot to be on a...
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May.14.2009
How would you like to be standing there in your underwear while four people look on critically and then decide it just won't do? Of course, the the pink elephant in the room (so to speak) is the body wearing the bustier. It's middle-aged and fairly well cared for, but all the tequila and take-out I...
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May.12.2009
I'll admit it. I'm a wuss about going to the dentist, even for routine stuff like teeth-cleaning. I am the kind of patient who needs the gas turned way up and has to rinse every five seconds. I go to a dentist who is known for being "good" with people like me, but still. All the rest of...
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May.10.2009
Thanks to an off-hand comment made by my pal Leslie Levine, I began wondering if someone could come up with an easy method for removing insecurity and self-doubt with beauty salon treatments. Yes, facials are nice and always makes us feel better, but the good feeling wears off the minute some jerk...
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Apr.30.2009
Anyone who has ever walked into a recording studio knows that there are ever-increasing choices available for processing sound: EQ, compression, reverb, etc. And if you want to sound knowledgable in a recording studio you can say stuff like "I think you should roll a little off the bass"...
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Apr.28.2009
I'm almost finished with a new novel, based loosely on my first. In the process of sharing the manuscript with some trusted reader-advisers, I sent it to a dear friend who happens to be a literary agent. Her critique boiled down to the fact that she loved my writing, but thought the book would...
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About Kathi
Perhaps best known in the publishing world for founding the all-author garage band, the Rock Bottom Remainders, Kathi Kamen Goldmark is the author of a novel, And My Shoes Keep Walking Back to You, co-author of Write That Book Already!: the Tough Love You...
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Support for Families of Children with Disabilities Friends of the San Francisco Public Library National Kidney Foundation of Northern California Litquake...