I know that I cannot please everyone. I have tried to raise three sons to believe in themselves and to not worry about pleasing everyone else. A lesson I learned and have relearned many times in life is that to attempt to please everyone pleases no one, so you have to please yourself and at least you will please one.
My oldest son is gay. I support him in everything he chooses to do. I love him and my other two sons unconditionally. they do not have to live within a certain boundary that will please me in order to know they are loved. They know, no matter what, that I will always love and support them. That is my greatest success in life. Everything else will never compare.
I did not come from such a family. It has been the burden and searing pain of my life. Daily I have strived to please them. Daily I have tried to fix things within the family. From as early as I can remember I was the peacemaker, or tried to be. Once in a while I succeeded. I'm 55 now. That's a lot of failure.
My mother has a favorite saying on a plaque. The Serenity Prayer. It's a wonderful way to live. If only we really did. I believe in a higher power, god, creator, I can't say I'm a Christian though. If that matters to you, sorry. I do not label myself any religion and actually find no comfort in any organized religion. The opposite is true. Like my dysfunctional family if you don't do what they want of you then you are ostracized. but getting back to the Serenity Prayer.
God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change. Courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Wow, those words are powerful and can make ones life so much easier if we could always remember to live that way.
I choose 2011 to live that way.... Happy New Year to each of you!