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The World According to Midge

In the world according to Midge there are no two people she looks up to or adores more than her brother and sister.  I wish they could stand back and see what I see, hear what I hear…..

Most days my house is a whirlwind of utter chaos.  Everyone going in different directions.  We are busy people with very busy lives, and then there is Midge.

Midge, who watches intently as we scurry around her, is content with just being there, being with us, being with them.

The kids ask her to do things, and she jumps at the chance to please them.  More often than not, this is after being told that she’s annoying, she talks too much, she’s bothering them….  “Ally, run up and get my phone charger… Ally, I left my brush downstairs will you bring it up to me?”  And, off she’ll go, smile on her face at the mere thought of making each of them happy.

I’m an only child so much of what is normal sibling behavior is very hard for me to understand.  I guess it takes longer for me to process.  Growing up I was always envious of my friends who had brothers and sisters.  In their lives there was always someone there to keep them company or to talk to. 

I often watch the kids and think … look into her eyes.  Can’t you see how she’s looking at you? It’s a love I never had the privilege of, and right now you’re not old enough to understand it.  Seize the moment, seize this time and know that there are no two people in her life who she will ever look up to more than you. 

The moments in which they include her, walks with their friends, shooting hoops together, playing with make up or having her hair done are the happiest moments she has. 

I was sitting alone with her the other day and Midge asked me if I would please, please have another baby.  I just smiled.  “I want to be able to hold a baby and play with it mom.”  “Can we?” 

Can we?  (Little voice replaying in my head)

I never really responded to the question.  My thoughts were cut short as her sister walked in the door and became the center of Midge’s attention.  However, I did think later… she just wants to be able to give what she has to offer, love and affection.

At the sweet age of six, Midge reminds me every day that we all have an enormous capacity for love, forgiveness and tolerance, that unconditional love is truly extraordinary.  She also reminds me that if we all stepped back and looked at things just a little closer, sometimes the biggest life lessons are taught to us by observing the innocence of a child.