Humans try to control everything. And all at once.
While we’re focused on solving one developing problem, another breaks away and does its thing. Frustrating, but inevitable.
The best we can do is control “ourselves” in such a way that happenings outside our sphere of influence don’t affect and distract us.
Sounds impossible, but it can be done.
Keep your mood as even-keeled as possible. Rather than indulging in worry, think about the outcomes you want. Focus on the task most important to you. Let Life keep an eye on the rest (after you’ve left instructions on what you want to happen).
Be flexible. Try to see the importance of this shifted point of view. You might eventually decide it’s for the best.
Take a novel, for example. If you have experiences like me, sometimes a novel wants to gallop off in unintended directions. I’ve learned not to rope it back into place too quickly. I usually give me a couple of days to cool down. Then I take a critical look. I decide if the change will work or not.
When I become acclimated to the new direction, I often see its newness makes an interesting twist to the story. I embrace it and make it a part of the whole.The lesson of this blog post is to control those things closest to you when you can. Let the others drift away under the control of the universe.
Visualize the end result you want for those for which you have no time and energy. Let the universe keep an eye on those for you. With its broader perspective, it can often do a better job than we can of lining up possible, visualized solutions. Then, it’s up to us to make the judgment call on whether it works for us.
So…if you’re feeling overwhelmed, focus on the most important work for now. Set your intentions for the other tasks before releasing them to the universe to oversee. The process carries a tremendous relief of burden from your shoulders. It allows creativity to flow. It provides organization as you concentrate on one project at a time with ease instead of stress. At the end of the day when you assess what got done by the universe, you’ll often be surprised. Characters going in directions you never intended, but which can be useful. Ideas for inexpensive giveaways that never came to mind when you were in a furious swirl of anxiety. New ways to interact with readers. All the fun part of being an author.
This technique for reducing overwellment can also be used during situations in our personal lives. Say, three children acting up at once. Focus on one. Send a vision to the universe on how you’d like the other two to act. Visualize the happy times and the characteristics of those children as bringing the greatest happiness. Your desires may become self-fulfilling prophecies and you may resolve all three problem—one by your focus and two by the universe.
Most of all, don’t panic. Ask for help. Be open to see the other side of things. Expect the problem to resolve itself and go away. Be delighted when it does and give than
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