Happy Friday the 13th! I promise not to turn into a flibertygibbet "bride"! You know like in one of those old movies w/Spencer Tracy! But updates:
We're 99% sure the cremony will be on Saturday Nov 1, w/a dinner after for the nearest & dearest who attend. We're determined not to turn it into a schmaltzy, traditional, patriarchal event. So this will be more 'Day of the Dead' than 'Here Comes the Bride.' We want to honor how big a step this is personally and politically and not lose sight of the human rights the whole marriage thing is about.
We'll have a big party the next afternoon. It'll be close to the November vote but we're still hoping to rally guests to sign on to make phone calls to voters to defeat the (anti)constitutional ballot initiative. This is just as important-I think-as who we elect for President. All connected isn't it. We'll be getting rid of an administration that ignores the Constituion and the Bill of Rights so it follows that we'd defeat the anti-marriage/anti-constituional amendment!
I'm attaching the info off of the SFGov website so you won't think we were delusional about the City deputizing people! How cool is that! We're so thrilled you're willing to get deputized and officiate! It's good we're waiting until fall because right now Civic Center is chaos!!! When I went online right after the decision already every Friday in June was booked! The air feels like it did four years ago when the clerks moving all the marriage paperwork were bubbling over w/excitement---I thought City Hall would levitate!
I finally heard back from my brother (who was calling me on our land line like 90% of the rest of the country still does) and he's coming to the ceremony! I think I've told you what a small town boy/big galoot he is. The kind of big (looks) white guy in a truck we'd be afraid to meet on a country road at night. He's uneducated, working class stiff Obama meant when he got (stupidly) accused (by the media) of being 'elitist'!
Families are weird aren't they? It's so clear how the 'nurture' aspect can have such a huge affect. We were booth 'poor' as kids but since we didn't grow up in the same household or even same type of community, Phill & I have scarily different political perspectives. But a generous heart can make up for a lot. He said he'd be here if he had to walk from the east coast...him and Sabrina, his THIRD wife :>
Sorry to go on but I want to keep you in the loop personally and historically speaking. That said now that I've written this I think I'll use it on my redroom.com blog or on hillgirlz.com! Or maybe on both! I know you appreciate what a huge political moment this is. When I think about how we lived our lives when we were twenty or thirty years old---marriage was so NOT in our thoughts. And those older than us! Picture our dear Aurel (aged 95) trying to ever imagine getting married in his youth. I can, however, see him with a guy on a honeymoon in Paris!
Human Rights has to start somewhere---righteous or humble---bus, lunch counter or city clerk's office. And if we're lucky there's always a party.