They Grow Up and Away
I didn't speak to my sister for years. I am really still not sure the exact cause for our split, and now that we are talking, I've decided not to care anymore. It was ten long years of radio silence, but it ended almost eight years ago. I've been able to meet her children and watch them grow. Things got better, but if you'd told me that in 1996 or so, I would have never believed you. Things change and then things change.
But at the time, my heart was broken, and now, watching my sons go through a hard time, I feel the same way.
Today I'm blogging about it at parentdish.com.
Read it here.
By the way, Gina Misiroglu of Red Room put me in touch with the parentdish people, which is one of the great ways in which she's bringing traffic to Red Room and getting attention for Red Room's authors.
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Jessica Barksdale Inclán's debut novel Her Daughter's Eyes, published in 2001, was the premier novel published under New American Library's new imprint Accent. Her Daughter's Eyes was a final nominee for the YALSA Award for the best books of 2001 and best...
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just read the full blog at parentdish.com. nicely written. you caught it. i'm an only child and a parent with an only child. my husband's sibs are ... distant, both in miles as well as minds. i've seen what you write about in an uptight, silent, WASPy New England kind of way, but never the view from both sides: from the growing up closeness to the adult splintering. i guess those aren't words of cheer. on the other hand, you don't know. as you point out from the beginning, children can bring you closer. you got to see your sister's children grow up. maybe that makes us grow up. i guess i put my vote in for love, when love happens ... you never know.
Thank you, Linda, for your
Thank you, Linda, for your comments.
Love is a good vote.
Best,
J
Jessica Barksdale Inclan www.jessicabarksdaleinclan.com
Embracing Change
I heard little things coming through in this post - have not yet read on parentdish, but will try - that tug the heart and slow the step for a while. It's a heavy load is regret and love. I hope your sons will weather their storms; watching a child stumble is really difficult.
Good to write and explore the feelings.
Christine
I am sure they will get
I am sure they will get through, and how that looks isn't up to me. But it is heard to watch.
Thanks for your comments, as always.
Best,
J
Jessica Barksdale Inclan www.jessicabarksdaleinclan.com