I'm sure that you've met a person who talks a great deal and then doesn't ask about you. You might try to insert some kind of idea into the conversation, but poof! it gets swallowed up in the discussion. And then there are the people who just don't seem to hear that you are talking at all, going on and on and on, despite your interjections.
I know a few of both types, and strangely I still like these people. I just don't know how to be myself with them because I can never say anything.
But these types of conversations remind me of how I love novels where I feel that I have the chance to communicate with the story. I hate a story where I feel I am being preached to, lectured, commanded, ordered. The narrator or authorial voice is right, and nothing I can say will make any difference. On and on and on the story goes, the theme and idea and point always in my face. And as I sometimes do with the folks I talk with who don't listen, I make a clean escape and leave. With a book, it's a lot easier to do. I fling it away, put it down, return it to the library.
I love a book that makes me feel as though I am communicating with the story. My reading the story actually has some effect on the story--or so I think. I can stop and think and ponder, and because the theme or idea isn't right in my face, I can relax and absorb and cogitate and feel. This is a good discussion. This is a discussion with myself and with the narrator and characters and writer. I think of novels by Ian McEwan and Toni Morrison, vastly different writers, but both allow me to ponder and consider. Both have clear notions and themes, but through example and detail and delivery, they allow me to come to the idea myself.
As a writer, I want to be like that. I don't want to hit you over the head with a barge pole. I want you and I to have a nice chat. Come on over. Tell me the story of your life and I'll tell you mine.
Now a good polemic or diatribe now and again is fine--just like a talk with one of my one-sided folk. Just not too often. Just not every day.
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