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Old Bats

A couple of nights ago, I sat around a restaurant table with five friends I've known for many moons, and at one point, I almost started laughing.  We were hysterical, we old bats.  And old bats, we were.  We were talking about our children, and children in general.  The current generation!  the lack of responsibility!  How spoiled they all were.

Then we moved onto arm fat and drooping skin.  Botox.  Face lifts.

Dessert came, and everyone scrambled to eat it.  We bobbled our way home.

When we met, we were all much younger, some of our children just out of toddlerhood.  We sat at the edge of the pool and watched them swim.  We talked about things women in their early thirties talk about, which I think involved food preparation, tired husbands, and school systems.  There was more, of course, but as we've gotten older, so much of that discussion ceased.  Our children are graduating from high school and college.  They are working on graduate school applications, job applications.  They are working in the "real" world.

For one second that night, I squinted my eyes and saw us in another ten years, the conversation all about grandchildren and retirement.  I will be 57 then, the rest of them into their 60's and 70's. 

How nice that we will have made it that long together.  It will be like old times by the edge of the pool, and only the conversation will have shifted; the complaining about other things, the laughter the same.

Jessica

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So very nice. Old friends are truly the best, especially those with so many shared experiences. My group has picked out the park bench we will hang and kvetch at, but I like your idea of poolside much better.... maybe in our flower adorned bathing caps.

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Yes, and our gigantic

Yes, and our gigantic bathing suits.   It's going to be fun times at the old bat poolside!

Best,

J

 Jessica Barksdale Inclan www.jessicabarksdaleinclan.com

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sweet

Just catching up. FYI, I like that I am maintaining a second FB page that is just a fan page for BIG SID'S VINCATI. You are probably on it too, since you are so nice, but in truth, if you aren't at this point that is cool too. I dont friend people who join it who I dont know. I just post about the Vincati for people who are digging it. Sometimes I get confused and post on my page and in truth I find the FB logic at times confusing. But it is something to think about though I recognize that your authorial efforts are different from mine and may be less of a good fit for it.

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Hi, Matthew! Your FB page is

Hi, Matthew!

Your FB page is a bit different for me from the 500 others I've been invited to.  I was glad to be your fan, but becuase I actually feel a connection to you and your work.  Not that I know you, but we've actually had communication!  It's weird to asked to be a fan of people I know simply because I added them as friends--that's weird too.  The whole thing is weird.

But, please!  Now don't go and unfriend me.  That would be a whole different blog.

Best,

J

Jessica Barksdale Inclan www.jessicabarksdaleinclan.com

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How true

The novel I'm working on is about just such a group of friends who've known one another since their babies were small. They're now 25 years on and still together, more like sisters.

I think this area of the market it hugely under-represented and I'd love to read bookes about women post-40. After all, if we don't have stories to tell, who does?

Laura Essendine
www.accidentalguru.blogspot.com

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My novel The Matter of Grace

My novel The Matter of Grace is a "friend" novel and a few of these old bats make an apperance, though highly fictionalized!  I love to write this kind of book and I love to read one, too.

 Best,

J

Jessica Barksdale Inclan www.jessicabarksdaleinclan.com