We sometimes get together with other people hoping their mood will elevate ours or, at least, soothe, energize, or distract us. In a way, we want to bring leftovers as our contribution to a potluck while hoping we’ll find apple pie to fill our plates. Experience shows us it doesn’t work that way. Energy explains why it can’t.
When we show up for a buffet of conversations, we will be drawn to the moods that reflect what we brought with us. Our feelings and thoughts seek similar energy fields. If we feel on top of the world, it isn’t smiles that will guide us to the lively group. It’s energy dynamics.
Remembering this can empowers us.
If we aren’t inclined to go to an event, for any reason, we can recognize everything we experience there will confirm that we shouldn’t have gone. On the other hand, we could spend the time doing something to honor our spirit and know everyone would benefit from our choice.
We can also choose how we want to show up in any group situation, knowing our choice will determine our experience. It’s okay to arrive subdued when we want quiet conversations. If we are feeling as exuberant as the last day of school, we can plan on connecting to those people who are ready to party.
Neither mood is good or bad, but recognizing we bring the mood that will determine the taste of our experience, we can make the best choices for ourselves.