There’s probably no topic more written about than happiness. What is it? How do you achieve it? I can’t think of any word I’ve seen attached to more similes. Happiness is a warm blanket. Happiness is next to Godliness. It is pursued, achieved, and lost. We don’t seem to know much about happiness, but the one thing I know is that the very concept of it is different for every single person in the world.
Some people equate money with happiness. I’ve never seen that one pan out. Others believe love and happiness go together. Unfortunately, love fizzles out, but when it does, some people are still happy. So that one can’t be true either. It often gets the same definition as love. It’s just this sense of warmth and fulfillment. You’ll know it when you achieve it. But again, since we know the love thing doesn’t work out, I can’t put much stock in this vague definition either.
The reality is that it takes many things to make an average person happy. It’s a combination of people, things and senses that cross through their lives to create this emotion called happiness. And when this combination comes into a person’s life at the same time, then and only then, do they achieve true happiness.
Over the course of my life, I’ve learned to watch people and I’ve become quite adept at reading them, learning what’s important to them, what they feel, what they desire. My ex-husband use to be amazed at my ability to buy the perfect gift for people no matter how close our relationship was with them. I always said it was just a matter of paying a bit of attention. If you’re paying attention, you can easily discern what is going to make which person happy and I enjoy doing what I can to make that happiness a reality for them, I suppose in hopes others will help me in the attainment of my own happiness. Of course, I realize thinking others care one bit about my happiness is a bit fanciful, but I can always dream, can’t I?
As with everything else in my life, however, there is this one group I have difficulty dealing with.. There are people in the world that find happiness in misery. That’s right….you heard me! People who love to be miserable! Now, how on earth are you suppose to help them achieve that state without making yourself miserable along the way?
We all know these people. We deal with them in every area of our lives, at work, church, in the services we use. But the worst place to deal with them is within the confines of our own families. Imagine having to help someone you love be miserable day in and day out. Finding ways to be happy yourself and making sure your happiness is able to make someone else miserable so they can be happy too. I’ve dealt with people like this in my family my entire life and I’m just saying it right up front….I DON”T LIKE IT!! IT DOESN”T MAKE ME HAPPY!
And yet these people go on, usually out living everyone else in their family. So there must be something to this happiness in misery concept otherwise why would these people live such long lives? So many years ago, I came up with this idea that allowed me to allow them to wallow in their misery without taking me into the abyss with them. It’s simple really. I laugh at them, make them face themselves and remind them I will love them no matter how crazy they get. They seem to find it difficult to come back at me while I’m laughing and we all know it’s hard to be unhappy when you’re laughing. Plus I get to give them the misery they long for so much because no on enjoys being laughed at. I think it’s a win-win situation, don’t you?