You know when I sat down to write this blog and I have to say it is really Tai that has requested that I write this. I wondered at the title of it completely. I felt that people would wonder that it would be a blog about moaning and whining or something like that. However, Tai assures me that it needs to be that...
I will hand it over to Tai, for always this Guide speaks of Inner Wisdom and hopefully with his understanding, we will both learn something valuable.
.... The human condition is such that insecurities run rampant through your emotions. Governed by your learning up to this point of your life, you understand a lot of things, however you are still like children. You seek at times approval from others, be it whether you fit in, said the right thing, or merely had your own brain picking at your insecurities over whom said what and whether you were involved or not involved.
Understand this, no one thing can truly affect you unless you take it to either heart (emotionally) or to mind (psychologically). Both at times can be equally detrimental because emotionally you can twist your interpretation and with your mind you can also twist information. You have been given balance in self with a heart that has the ability to give its own reason, and a mind that to can give you logic and reason. The problem always lies within that people choose either their heart, to govern their perception or their mind. The two are simply not compatible in terms of their perception at times.
I ask you to think of this, two men are sharing a supper. They have ordered enough food for the both of them to eat a sufficient meal and be perfectly content, however, during the course of the meal, one of the gentlemen decides he likes a flavour of the food more than another. He helps himself to another piece of the meal. His friend frowns. He sees this is no longer a "shared" supper but that the other one is taking advantage of the situation. So he in turn helps himself to a bigger portion of the meal. It is now the friend's turn to frown. Also being more outspoken than the other, he comments "Are we sharing?". The other replies, "I thought we were until you were being greedy".
To understand, there was simply enough food. Nothing had changed, but the perception of each of the people. Both could have discussed which they liked the most and came to an amicable and peaceful arrangement. Instead they have chosen to argue instead of having a pleasurable meal. My point I am making is that at times your insecurity of what you perceive is your "right" or our "truth" can indeed make you suspicious of anothers intent and therefore leave you feeling that the person may "want a piece of you".
Many an argument or disagreement even between friends has been truly only based on the insecurity of the other or a perceived insecurity in oneself.
Understand this also, in order for you to recognise that your fellow-man is equal to you, there must be the understanding that you were created the same way. You have had to be conceived, there is no miraculous conception of another, you are simply created the same way. Each have been given what they need to function on this journey for their optimum learning. You were also given emotions to use in conjunction with your brain in this same manner. The balance of person, each person has these attributes. You are simply walking mirrors of each other. However, within you also is the learning you have had to this time. If you felt that you had a difficult childhood, you will see difficulties in others. If you were not loved enough, you will struggle to love easily. If you were not listened to, you will resent being talked at. These are your insecurities.
So the next time someone says something, or their actions reflect something that makes your hackles rise, understand this. They are simply showing you what your own insecurities are. What you need to learn for yourself and your growth. Each person has been given the ability and the knowledge to teach another by your own reactions. Choose wisely before you decide that "you want a piece of me?" for you may well just find, you are simply being given a piece of yourself.
Acknowledgement and acceptance of all facets of yourself will enable you to see others with clarity and wisdom. Do not be hard on self, for simply you are all learning and the "pieces" you assemble of yourself will give you more clarity, wisdom and patience with others whom are simply learning in the same space you are. Be kind, for you will expect at some time, someone to be kind to you also......
Inner Wisdom. Tai teaches always what we need to address in ourselves. We are at times reactive, or proactive in our tolerances of others, and yet all are in this together. I love his saying... and I give it to you.
"Sometimes in Wisdom, it is best to hold the tongue in your head, for otherwise you may well just find yourself chewing on the meat of yourself"
No matter how many times you point a finger at another, look at your hand, for there is three folded back and pointing at yourself, so are you really sure you want "a piece of me?" when all you are truly doing is giving yourself more learning at the expense of an insecurity that you need to look at in self.
*hmmmm so gotta love the learning : ) Thanks Tai XX