You know it's funny, honesty is such a lonely word. We worry that if we are completely honest with people, that they will judge us and in turn we will lose them. We tell little white lies in an attempt to not hurt feelings and then people turn around and say why didn't you tell me. Hmmm the devil you do, the devil you don't. The worse person that we lie to is ourselves.
We have a million and one excuses in our brains to justify the reason why we chose to do the things we did. However, the one person that we have to answer to really is ourselves. At the end of the day, you have a choice. Please be true to you, when you lie you constantly justify why you did something. Not to anyone else but in your head. It nags at you like a fishwife. If it's doing that then you need to be honest firstly with yourself as to why you chose to lie. Spirit always tells me there is no right or wrong but there is a need to be okay with what you chose, otherwise it sits on you heavily and a lie just builds, you feel guilty about it and it becomes heavier and heavier.
I laughed the other day, I was become frustrated with questions from my youngest and was tempted to cut the conversation short with him with just a "wee porky". Spirit leaned in and said "Shhhhhhh, you will regret that you told this lie as your child sees you as having knowledge that is important. In times to come this child will grow and will not see the wisdom in your heart. Make sure to share the knowledge while you can in a complete and honest light". It was a very valid point and I had to step back and see the conversation from my son's point of view too.
Take the time to step back, see the situation as a play, and take note of what character, what role you are choosing to play. If you are friends with someone who values complete honesty, then you need to take care in what you say. People who value honesty completely (and by the way, this is most of us) have limited levels of tolerance around lies or let downs no matter how small they are. When we choose to be honest, there is a clarity of mind, a consistency of thought and an acceptance of self in the honesty. This has a double impact, for you and for those around you. They will trust your honesty and integrity and in turn you will trust yourself.
We convince ourselves that white lies are okay. Are they really? I have found on numerous occasions that they aren't, they lead on to other stuff and an uncomfortableness inside of me. So be true to your heart and yourself. Find your way to honesty, complete honesty. You love it from others, so be honest with you.