I sat in front of the computer this morning, as I always do, skimming the headlines before checking my emails. One particular story caught my eye, my funnybone, and my heart: Chef Emeril Lagasse has offered to replace an entire set of cookware for 70-year-old Ellen Basinski of Elyria, Ohio.
On Tuesday, 4 teenagers broke into Mrs. Basinski’s home. Fortunately, she was on the telephone with her husband at the time. While Mr. Basinski called 911 and raced home to his wife, Mrs. Basinski took her favorite 5-quart saucepan and struck the teenager who was rummaging through her purse. Thankfully, the local police arrived and arrested the intruders, but seized Mrs. Basinski’s prized pan as evidence.
The first thought that ran through my mind was: “How dare those kids, let alone anyone, break into someone’s home – their sanctuary – the place where they are supposed to feel safe?” My second thought was: “How dare anyone do such a thing to anyone, let alone a 70-year-old-woman?” My third thought (as I smiled and nodded my head) was: “Hey! Good for Ellen! Defend the castle!” And of course: “Good for Emeril! Make the victim whole again!”
Trying – that is, difficult- situations are relative – it depends on the person’s perspective. What may be a difficult situation for one may not seem so bad to another. The article I read did not mention the reactions of Mr. and Mrs. Basinski – perhaps Mr. Basinski had a more difficult time than his wife, hearing the intrusion on the telephone and not being able to get home fast enough. Perhaps Mrs. Basinski felt that her young intruders were interrupting her – interrupting her conversation, her day and the creation of her dinner. Perhaps the reactions were completely different.
It is important in today’s day and age to understand that there are so many reasons why people do what they do, and react as they do, before we jump to any conclusions, as we all experience things differently. While our country is in the midst of a financial crisis, people are naturally on edge. Perhaps that is why they are tailgating us while we drive – or perhaps they are on their way to help their spouse who is being victimized in their home. If we take our time and continue to drive carefully, not motioning in anger to the offending driver, perhaps letting him or her pass instead while we take a deep breath, the world can be a better place. Perhaps if we wave in thanks to the person who allowed us to safely cross the street, they may hold the door for someone exiting the grocery store with multiple bags in their hand. Little random acts of kindness help us to remember that we are all part of the same city, country, world and race. We are all in this together. Kindness, not hatred, is the key to promoting peace in our world.
On another note, this month has been an incredible month for “Confidential Communications!” We have more positive reviews on Goodreads and on Amazon, and the book video trailer on youtube has nearly 1000 hits since it’s inception. Again, I thank everyone who has read the book, and who has suggested it to others – please continue to do so – reading helps me to escape a sometimes crazy world, and it has been a pleasure to help others to do the same.
Author, “Confidential Communications”