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Persistence . . .

Someone asked me today what the secret of my persistence was. He was blown away that I wrote 7 novels in a little over a year while juggling a full time job but what he didn't know is I've had the stories locked up in my head for twenty years and when I finally opened the gates, the flood began.

It has slowed a bit, but it could be that the current stories aren't fully baked in my head yet so it is coming in dribs.

So many people have commented "Where do you find the time?" I made the time and didn't sleep much for a while - but that eventually catches up with you, but the writing, the creative outlet, actually sustains me. It gives me energy, believe it or not. The day job saps the energy from me that writing puts right back.

Yes, my family has suffered. Mom isn't cleaning the house or cooking all that often, (I never liked either all that much anyway) but I'm happier and the excitement of finishing a novel or short story is contagious. And they get excited when an envelope comes in the mail and share the disappointment of rejections (there have been A LOT of rejections). I figure it is good to let them see both the disappointment and the resolve of ok - onto the next avenue. It's character building.

So what types of sacrifices do you make to do the things you love?

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Sacrifices

...nice to know about how you deal with the issue of persistance and discipline...it's all about the things you are willing to give up for a certain period of time...I always ask myself "is it worth it?", "what am I getting from it?" , "what should my life be about?"...I always reach inconclusive answers which means I have way way way too much stuff happening at the same time...oh well...we only live once...so ...what the hell....

cheers

R.C.

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Too little time

J. E. Taylor www.JETaylor75.com

There's always too little time to do everything.  It's a matter of prioritization as you said.  But sometimes you have to put the things that do less for you and more for others in the forefront - which is the balance I need to find.  Writing does a world of good for me, however, it is a solitary thing and I've got to juggle the balance of the writing addiction (yes - I think it is an addiction of sorts) with the attention my friends and family need.  And balance a full time job in there.  I've never been regimented enough to say from x to x I will write but I'm starting to put boundries on that because I can't shut the family out forever.  Eighteen months of seclusion is a long time for the family - although I'm sitting in the midst of everyone with my laptop - which has become an extension of my person, I'm not WITH them when I'm writing. 

Thanks for the comment and I hope you find the right balance as well!

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Giving up

You know what, J.E.? I think writing isn't  about giving up anything. It's about adding to everything. Feeling and being alive, getting excited about each step of the writing process, bringing situations and characters to life with names and faces. Learning to combine aspects of the situations and characters from your actual acquaintances, neighbors and family. Putting personal creativity, education, skills and intelligence to work on each page of your manuscript. You know what it's all about. Embrace each tear you shed, hug each character you create, shadow yourself into every situation you devise. It's about adding pieces of your life to all your writing.

Ben Campbell www.lulu.com/bencampbell

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Thank you for commenting Ben. 

 While I share the enthusiasm for writing and cherish the feeling of creating life in text, it get's difficult when the kids and husband are competing for my attention with a character that has taken hold and won't let go. 

 They are not writers and have no idea of the need associated when a story gets inside your head and there is no way to explain this to someone who has never experienced it.  There is a balance that has to occur between the act of creating a story and actually living in the present.  The things I gave up to write (house work, cooking, time with my family) are sacrifices I am willing to make because of the joy that writing brings.  I can forgo housework and cooking forever, but I've got to find a balance with my family -  I made a committment to them as well.  It would be vastly different if I didn't work in an office 40+ hours a week, but until that time comes, I've got to put down the laptop from time to time and pay attention to the things that sustain me in a different but just as important manner.   

J. E. Taylor www.JETaylor75.com

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Energy!

Hulloo Ms Taylor.

I really like this post because it reminds me how invigorating it is to create. When I write, its like a meditation that connects me with the energy of the universe.

As for sacrifices, I can't make any. My family relies on me too much to give anything up at this point. When the children are older (only 3.75 and 1 at this point) I will get more time for writing.

Don't get me wrong I steal some time here and there and write when I can. Generally I just give up an hour of sleep or an hour of my favorite de-stresser: watching TV.

I love Redroom because I can write just a tiny piece about anything and post it to my blog. It takes away the pressure to work on a long novel, or edit one of the stories that really need editing. At the same time enables me to let the steam out of my creative centers to keep me from boiling over.

I have to write, I'm compelled and even this post to you helps me satiate the need.

Thanks!

Brian

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Energy continued!!!

Brian,

Thanks for stopping by and writing. 

 I had to wait until my little ones were a bit older before I started to write like a fiend.  They were 7 and 12 at the time I started  really writing the books.  I had been technical writing for years and that sustained me to a point, it isn't exactly the same as creating works of fiction and  I still had the stories mishing around my head.  It was a relief to get them on paper and actually complete a book - 7 completions was an outrageous feeling. 

  Now its time to get busy getting my manuscripts published! 

 Good luck to you and stop by any time!

Have a great night!

Jane. 

J. E. Taylor www.JETaylor75.com

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Good for you!

J. E. -

If I were wearing a hat, I'd tip it to you! SEVEN?!? That's outstanding! It's wonderful that you have a built-in support system at home, that did wonders to me. I wrote my first (and so far only) novel in three months, mainly between the hours of 8pm and 3am, but the adrenaline rush that I got from putting my thoughts on paper, and the joy of watching my husbands reaction in the morning, as he proofed them, made it all worth while. The manuscript sat, however, untouched for nearly three years (I had fried my laptop, among many other excuses), and now that I'm writing again, I can't recall the reason for this.

Anyway, I think what you're doing is amazing. I wish you all the luck in the world, and remember that there's no shame in self-publishing. Oh, and here's what I did; I pasted every personalized rejection letter on the wall above my desk. My friends thought I was a glutton for self-punishment, but to me it was self-improvement. Not only did I hope to learn something from them, but I also took an oath to 'show them'.

(I've never written a reply to a blog before, so please bear with me if I ramble, okay?)

Good luck, and keep your spirits high!

Kind regards,

Anne Harper

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Thank you!

Anne,

Thanks for swinging into my RedRoom blog and sharing your story! I have many rejections as well, but I found part of my issue was that I initially didn't know how to write an effective query. But with some help from my friends at Backspace (www.bksp.org) I was able to craft it just so and now I'm getting requests. So that was a plus. There are quite a few writing communities out there and everyone has been wonderful at lending their time to help point me in the right direction. Still haven't scored an agent, but I may be able to bypass that by scoring a small publisher instead. We'll see how that all turns out, but I'm not one to give up hope very easily.

I wish you the best of luck in your writing as well!

Take Care,

Jane.

J. E. Taylor www.JETaylor75.com