At one time in my life I was trying to learn new eating habits and came across the idea of affirmations for the first time. They sounded like a good idea: Just tell yourself several times a day that which you want to believe. The suggested affirmation was "I am a naturally thin person and I eat only what a naturally thin person eats."
That may have sounded good, but it was blatantly untrue. At one point in my life it may have been true, but at this time when I was trying to lose weight it obviously was not....or I wouldn't be trying to lose weight!
It very soon proved a very untenable situation - trying to motivate myself by telling myself a lie. I was no fool. "I am not a naturally thin person so I have to be mindful of what I eat." Now that sounded true. Watching what I put in my mouth appeared to be a good idea and I could believe myself when I said it. Okay, better. This was a reminder I could utter several times a day and not guffaw when I uttered it. Whether it would be an effective tool in dropping some unwanted pounds remained to be seen.
I was a confirmed smoker from the age of 14 until 45, when I quit. I did it just once and for good. I wish I could tell you exactly how I managed to do that, but I can't. I did it though.
Many times during the almost 30 years I smoked I wondered if I could ever quit and decided IF I ever decided to do it, if I were ever able to do it, I would do it only once. I told myself that many times. How demoralizing, I thought, for those friends who quit and went back to it over and over again. I couldn't imagine what they said to themselves to make it okay to take it up again once they managed to get the nicotine out of their system. "I'll have just one?" or "This time I can keep the habit under control?" Whatever they said, whatever head tripping they went through to quit and start again, it is obvious they were lying to themselves. When I quit, I wasn't
The point of this self-disclosure about my own bad habits is to assist you in taking a look at the ones you want to alter.
In the coming year you would like to eat better, spend money wisely, use your time productively, move ahead in your career, get enough healthy exercise, and improve your relationships. Wouldn't we all? The end of the year seems to inspire these intentions in most of us. So, what do you tell yourself about your intentions?
Have your promised not to let a morsel of a carbohydrate pass your lips come January 1? Will you arise at the crack of dawn daily to run five miles, rain or shine? Will you make your sweetheart look at you anew with love light shining because of your noble and selfless actions? Can you look yourself in the eye and believe what you're telling yourself?
I was able to quit smoking and remain a nonsmoker once and for all because I wholeheartedly believed that if I could do it once that would be it. I never believed that I was eating the way a naturally thin person does, because I obviously was not. Whatever your resolution is, be sure that when you frame the words of your intention they make internal sense, that you can state your resolution without an internal echo of "Yeah, right." You have a much better chance of succeeding at your goals if they are believable, if YOU are believable to yourself.