I was enamored with Facebook for quite a long time. I was one of the early go-getters, and was amazed at how I could connect with out of town family, friends I hadn't seen in years, teachers I had in elementary school, etc.. And then, as more and more people, including writers, publishers, and agents, got on the bandwagon, a whole world of opportunity opened up for me.
Even though I was relatively new to being a published writer, since I did have a publisher, I didn't so much need to make contact with publishing houses or agents to get my book in print, but more to try to get my name out there, maybe help the other writers who are published by my publisher's small house get their names out there. And maybe it woud result in a book sale, maybe it wouldn't, but either way it was fun.
And then came my first UN-FRIEND. Honestly, and somewhat sadly, the first person to unfriend me was one of my cousins. I was a little annoyed, because although her sister, also my cousin, has apparently decided my sister and I did some horrible injustice to her and won't speak with us, the older of the two, a few years younger than me, still carried on normally with us. We are all in our 30's and 40's, too old for highschool BS and too young for senility, but I digress.
So I thought the older of the two sisters had realized this perceived wrong was an insane reason to cut family ties and continued to communicate. Then, one day, out of the blue, she was no longer my friend. I shook my head and sighed, but so be it. I can't control what other people do.
That was the first of a few experiences that have left me befuddled on Facebook. A former friend of my husband's, who had fallen into a habit of stealing other people's prescription medications unfriended me next. I was not suprised, as he had already unfriended my husband after their real falling out when my husband tried to help him.
But so far, these unfriends, although they don't necessarily make sense, are understandable. What I do not understand is waking up one morning and going from 1004 friends to 999 friends. FIVE people decided to unfriend me? What could I possibly have done? Did one of my status updates offend? Or were they cleaning house of their Facebook friend's list and decided I was unworthy?
It is perplexing, because it is impossible to track from Facebook exactly which 5 former "friends" have dumped me. Maybe Facebook closed accounts of some people for nonuse or abuse or spam or something I am unaware of, and 5 of my friends fell on this list. Or maybe there was a security breach and 5 of my friends accounts were compromised so they closed them. I can come up with a hundred reasons other than the one I dread believing, that they just didn't like me anymore.
Five people in cyberspace dislike me enough to make the effort to click on unfriend, and then click again to verify they actually really do want to unfriend me. That's the problem with Facebook-- one day you're on top of the world, the next day you're wondering what you did wrong.
On the plus side, a friend from my daughter's school asked to be my friend, so I am back up to 1000. That should count for something, right?
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